This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throwra_difcheck on 2023-08-06 03:21:31.

I (32M) have been with her (30F) for six years now. She is lovely, but kind of lives out of reality. For context: we don’t live together and she lives with some wealthy relatives, never leaves home because she works as an independent and has a shit ton of clients. Obviously makes more than me, and it would look like everything she wants, she just gets it. Want a project?, she somehow gets it, more money?, gets a new client. It can be annoying because it feels like she tells me all about it like if she’s rubbing it on my face.

I have a job with low wages, and in the beginning she agreed that a gift was not mandatory for our anniversary or a birthday, she still plans something for my birthday. I have never asked her to do it, and she likes to take me to these expensive places I could never afford on my own, I can’t do that back. We usually meet on Saturdays, she likes taking me out to eat something and chat, but lately I have had too much work and it has been around one month since I last saw her. Her birthday was three Saturdays ago, and I wished her a happy birthday but I don’t have her time or her money, and she didn’t seem bothered.

There is this client of hers though, who she has told me has already asked her out, and she has rejected (I know she’s not interested in him, that doesn’t worry me) but still sent her flowers and her favorite food on her birthday. I thought nothing of it, like, good luck man, she’s not into flowers. Anyway, today I told her I would be working again and I will see her next week, and she exploded on me, full scale crying, telling me all about how I wasn’t there for her birthday and didn’t even take her out when even her client sent her something, I told her I thought that wasn’t important?, I don’t even like my birthday, and don’t like celebrating, she screamed at me that it was not about me paying, she would have paid for us to go out on her birthday but I put my work over her, I told her that she needs to get her shit together and not everyone has a perfect life like she does, and I bust my ass working, so she should grow up and stop overreacting over a stupid birthday because she is not 5 anymore.

Long story short she has blocked me on all social media, I was thinking of calling her at home and try to reason with her but first I want to make sure I am not the asshole here?