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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/Zealousideal-Bee-896 on 2023-09-18 02:31:57.
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AITA for telling my bestfriend that she should have know better when she got pregnat by a married man?
I (F23) have a childhood bestfriend, “Maggie” (F23). She’s really beautiful and someone that you can get along easily. I love Maggie, but she has this problem that sometimes bothers me. Maggie likes to sleep with wealthy married men, no, no men of her age, no single men, she only likes guys that are like a decade older than her and that have their own families already. Not for money - It is just “her kink”. I’m not trying to “kinkshame” her or however she calls it. it’s just that it gives me quite the ick. This strained our friendship a bit.
Maggie meet this guy, “Max” (M39) in social media, he texted her in response of a story she posted. Now, they began to chat and Maggie got super fixated with this guy. She keep talking abt him, showing me pics of him, yada yada. I know it’s her life, but something about that man irked me but i decided not to tell her to not get into a fight. Finally, after like 4 months, Maggie and Max meet, and meet again, Maggie even introduced him to me and in that moment i knew much better than something wasn’t right. In Maggie’s words, he was single and all that and that it wasn’t anything to be concerned. Maybe it was the age gap between them and the fact that Max was a total jerk, lol, but it made me highly uncomfortable.
Few days ago, Maggie came to my house and she was crying. At this point I already had a idea of what was happening. She tells me that she got pregnat of Max and just went she told him he dropped the big bomb, he was married with 2 toddlers and couldn’t take responsability for the baby. Maggie said to me that she didn’t expect it because Max always told her things like “She was the love of his life”, “they would marry someday”, “she was everything he could ever want”. To be honest, I felt sad for her because the man obviously lied. I told her that I’m so sorry about what happened but she should know better at this point and she should have been more careful.
Maggie began to cry more, I comforted her a little more until and then take her to her house again. But since that, Maggie doesn’t want to speak to me and ignores me. I talked about this with other close friend of me and Maggie and she told me that i was too harsh and I lacked of tact, and that Maggie was obviously being manipulated by Max.
I have been thinking of my friend words, i want to know what you guys think. Was i the AH actually?
EDIT: for more INFO, there’s this; Maggie told me that she though he was single, but never asked him to confirm it. Also on a quick stalking I did on Max profile, he has some pics with another woman and what seems to be two kiddos. I doubt that Maggie didn’t see these pics, but maybe she just didn’t go too low in his profile or whatever.