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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/idfk_me_ig on 2023-10-02 14:22:12.

I (21F) have been married to my husband (28M) for 3 and a half years now and I’ve went through so many cars. We decided with a baby on the way and the fact that he has a car, in his mothers name, but still his car that I wouldn’t get a car until this year’s taxes came through. The reason being for this is because we would have to buy it up front and his car note is $400 a month so we can’t afford another car note. The reason for not being able to afford another one is because I’m the only one working. We decided it was best for him not to work due to pending child support from his ex (there was never a paternity test and he believes the kid isn’t his) and the prices of child daycare when the baby was born would be too much once child support is taken out. So, every time we argue he always uses the car as leverage, saying I won’t be allowed to drive it or I’d have to find a different ride to work. Keep in mind, his only source of income is when he donates plasma, so he only occasionally pays for gas for the car while I’m paying for most gas, oil changes, car notes, and overall maintenance for the thing(I have all bank transcripts for proof of this). Well now it’s time for the car note to take and we got into it, he telling me that I need to find a ride to work, I don’t wanna pay the car note if he’s gonna hold the car over me like this nor do I wanna pay for anymore maintenance for it. Keep in mind too, I also pay the other utilities with the help from my roommate (M27). So what do you think? Am I the asshole?