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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Unlikely_Use_7396 on 2023-07-04 12:04:01+00:00.

I 28m am getting married to my fiancee Eliza 25f. Her parents are very well off and are paying for the wedding. They are also much older, MIL is late 50s and FIL just turned 70.

They are both homophobic, and Eliza says that they are too old to change their ways, and as they aren’t doing any harm and keeping these opinions to themselves its ok. Eliza and her siblings aren’t not homophobic, and I never knew her parents were until they made a comment about our home country legalising gay marriage last year.

Eliza wants a big wedding, and the only way we can afford it is through her parents. We could have a smaller scale event, but as Eliza has always wanted a fancy wedding, so I let her plan it. The only thing I asked for was a cake I chose. The bakery owner is my friend Sam who is gay, and Eliza asked me to change the cake order as her parents wouldn’t want to support a gay owned business. I told Eliza it’s weird, and I don’t want to hide my friend from them, as he is also attending the wedding. I am not sure how his sexuality would even turn up in conversation between my and in laws, but the fact she wanted me to hide it upset me.