But, like … most people don’t want that shit. They want to live with the people they love and can cohabitate with.
What do you think a found family is if not people you love and can cohabitate with? I don’t have to be related to people to care about them and want to be around them.
See, I used to live in an area with a big polyamory community. Most of us were gay or trans or both. Befriending just one person led you to a whole group of entanglement. Swiping with poly people on tinder led me to people I didn’t know yet, but maybe I knew their partners or friends of partners or some other entanglement. They were like my found family. I really miss them all.
I moved to a brand new area, and started swiping. I put that I’m poly in my profile. I swiped on some potato who said they were poly. I figured that was my way into find some group. I met the potato, and their partner carrot shows up in the middle. They leave together. Potato blocks me. Carrot starts interviewing me on another platform I had never even giving to potato. Like dang, I didn’t know it was like that. That interaction freaked me out and I haven’t been talking to anyone since.