That “Do better.” messaging seems to have done nothing for you except help lose you an election, you still think it’s working?
You don’t understand it accomplished nothing, and just drives a wedge between you and whoever you’re talking to as they refuse your authority to be the one who knows what’s better? Do better.
A fitting thing to be the top comment on a post like this, but the other guy’s version on the earlier post was so much better.
An almost theatrical performance, felt like I was really there seeing the journalist try it. Actively coming to the realization that it was not a useful strategy. I have no link, I can only relay my recollection as tribute to the original verbiage I enjoyed so much.
I would guess they just dump most of it.
Danes are the minority we should be abusing.
Look, they were drunk on brunch and beer, okay?
I hope you realize part of the reason politicians are now getting ready to make gay marriage illegal again is because people like you pushed for this. You lost the unimportant “filthy” centrists.
You wanted to make sure that any kind of rude, disagreeable people understood that you no longer needed their hesitant help and incomplete acceptance. You didn’t need or want support from people who only sort of accept you, that you don’t want or need their help preserving your capability to legally even be some kind of gay.
The gay community in the last decade has ended up fundamentally misunderstanding what support is.
They think it means friendship and participating in protests and emotional support. The reality is that you should desperately want some support and also from the hesitant and questioning. You should have strategically worked to gain their support.
The people who stand up for you in a group and say, “Hey, they’re not that bad!” are fucking VITALLY IMPORTANT to your continued freedom and survival.
But you’ve lost them, so now a few not so cruel people in an Arkansas town hall are keeping their mouth shut while the really cruel ones go on and on. The woild-be-kinda-allies don’t really like trannies and that freaky kind of gays who parade in leather chops, but they still used to speak up and try to appeal to compassion and defuse people’s enthusiasm and strategizing when they started talking about “doing something” about the gays in town. They didn’t really like gay everything about the hay movement, but they didn’t want them to get hurt and harassed either.
The actual raging homophobes want to help conservatives push to make gay marriage illegal, start reinterpreting public indecency to include being visibly gay with your partner in public, start following and arresting them. Beating and killing gays as feds look the other way. Et cetera.
You feel like you don’t need mild compassion, you feel like you need only allyship from those who unconditionally love and accept you and all your queer friends.
You’re an idiot who fumbled the game and is about to lose your rights. You and most of your friends are idiots.
Now ban me and make sure you don’t have to think about this again.
I’m not so sure “just be yourself” is something we should say to people anymore.
Imagine the Chinese taking the Alamo with noclipping special forces wiping out 20,000 men as they sit in a digital forest around a thousand bright but cold campfires talking about Christian values, the merits of racism, and which anime girl is best.
Somebody: …
Everybody: ?
Yeah, no notes 10/10
It would be so fitting for the Russians to desire conquest and domination and a show of strength so deeply that when failing to be sufficiently powerful with conventional warfare they would end civilization to not have to accept it. It’s the orc state of mind.
Of course they’re shamed as long as people who demand gender role adherence exist. Even if these conservatives were a small minority it would still technically be true that incompletely traditional men would be shamed. Shamed by them.
It is still true that any man that tries to meet their demands is more likely to commit suicide than s man eho rejects their demands and ignores them.
I’m sure you’re not wrong in arguing there’s no non-traditional gender role men can fulfill that is clearly defined and understood like the traditional one is. But that’s part of the rejection. You reject the role, you keep living, if necessary you leave the people who make your life insufferable. Or you just stay, while shutting them out or reducing contact. Often that means not being welcoming to cruel family members, and often it means not listening to your mother and father most of the time.
That’s partly because it’s now more important to know what you’re doing, than figuring out what you’re doing, or just enjoying the fight. Unless you’re willing to just tank insults while playing, and rebuild and retry with constant leavers, you have to study. Usually people try, but often they sit back and give in to “experiencing” games through video instead.
WoW for example has almost no tolerance for flawed teammates anywhere anymore, I’ve seen countless groups that would rather sit outside a dungeon for hours, than be inside it for 15 minutes too long.
And people no longer think “if you want good teammates, you have to build a team”, they instead think that everyone who joins the random matchmaker has a responsibility to be good. It’s rude to be bad at World of Warcraft.
Parker Solar Probe: 191 km per second.
Nuclear Manhole Cover: 55 km per second
Voyager 1: 17 km per second
Voyager 2: 15 km per second
Somebody did.
Nobody gets respect when clapping for emphasis.
Some men who don’t reject gender roles kill themselves.
If they had rejected the criticism as invalid and distanced themselves from those people, it seems the data suggests they’d live longer. In my experience, it works.
They’re not all your allies, and who you keep contact with and how you do it is up to you. You sound like you deeply fear the world, and instead choose familiar hostility.
How the fuck am I bringing that energy? I thought it was pretty clear I was talking about shutting out traditional family if necessary to avoid harassment. I wasn’t specifically thinking about trans people, but they fit under the broader umbrella of misfits living in tradition-town needing a way out that isn’t so final.
I don’t know if you want to try transitioning or not, I didn’t really get a picture of what you’re about. But no, I personally see no reason to tell people they can’t.
Look, there are good and bad people out there. But the average experience is less bad than having to endure prolonged adult contact with cruel family. People distance themselves from cruel people for good reason. People do move away when necessary, even if there are risks. For some people life didn’t really start before they kinda got away from their past like that.
But I just mentioned that as an option to not have to endure it. Often it’s enough to just distance yourself socially from the people who are a problem.