it’s tubin’ day in the whisky lake boys
Strawberry Mansion is one of my top 5 film from the last decade. I’m so ready!
There are more of us out now than ever before, and we’re not going anywhere.
The video’s one, and only, comment, posted in April 2021:
“Is it possible to reupload the video in 4K to PeerTube. Here it’s only available in 1080p.”
oh st louis; you absolute shithole of architecual planning
First of all, congratulations! I hope that you find the journey you are embarking on as soul-filling and effervescent as many of your trans siblings.
Coming out to my family is probably the most single difficult thing I’ve ever done. I was in a good place life-wise (financially, friends, relationships, etc), but I knew they wouldn’t understand, and would likely say some hurtful things, all of which happened. Some people prefer to deliver the message via a letter or email in order to better compose their thoughts. I really like this idea in terms of crafting the message you want to send, but I also believe that it’s an important enough matter that the people who you care most about deserve to hear about it from you first-hand (offering a letter or email after the fact to ensure your whole message gets through). Today, my family still doesn’t quite get it, but it’s no longer the anguish for them that it started as.
Be prepared for your life to change. Your good job could go away, and you could find it difficult to find a new one. That’s the situation I’ve found myself in. I thank my lucky stars I have a partner that’s willing to support me and enough of a nest-egg to get by without fearing homelessness.
I get my hair cut at an LGBTQ salon, and I think at least one of the stylists there is a trans woman. Would it be appropriate/inappropriate for me to ask her if I could talk to her about her experience?
As a general rule, I would flag that as inappropriate. Many many transgender women prefer to be seen as just plain old women. Approaching someone you suspect is trans and saying “Hey, I’m pretty sure I’m trans too! What up sis?? Can you help me?” has a high likelihood of making that person feel less like a woman (like any other) and more like a trans woman. Now it’s also equally likely that they won’t find it inappropriate at all and would delight in the opportunity to help you. You never know; people are all different. If I were in your shoes there, I’d talk to my regular stylist (the person who usually works with you) and let them know where you’re at regarding your gender identity, and you’d like your hair to reflect that, but you’re totally new to this, probably need a lot of help and aren’t sure how to even ask for help. Let them know when you book your appointment that you want to do something new with your gender expression and would like help with it. Chances are that your regular stylist knows more about their coworker and how they prefer to be interacted with. Again, as a general rule, don’t single out trans people for being trans; treat them they way they prefer to be treated and (if they want to) they will gravitate to you.
That said, you will definitely want to find some transgender friends. These will be people you can commiserate with, ask for favors, teach you about blue eye-shadow, all that nonsense. This could be tricky though, as there aren’t a ton of common socialization venues just for trans folks. If you’re in a reasonable-sized city, there’s probably a queer resource center or website that you can start from. See if they have a bulletin board where people post meet-ups or activities that you can jump in on. Also, it may be a little scary, but look at starting one on your own! What are your interests and hobbies? If there isn’t already a queer group for your activity of choice, make it! Queer and queer ally bowling team, or biking club, or movie fans, or sports, or whatever. Discord servers are popular these days, but finding people you can hang out with in meat space can’t be replaced.
Oh, and hey, your lemmy friends are here to help too. <3
The Intercept has a more recent article about him, including an interview:
https://theintercept.com/2025/02/10/super-bowl-kendrick-lamar-gaza-sudan-protester/
tl;dr: He’s fine, and been released without charges (so far).
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I purchased passes today to a new animation festival in Seattle (USA) scheduled for March 2025, Sea Slug: https://seasluganimation.com/program
The festival has an opening night featuring Boys Go to Jupiter (trailer), closes with Gina Kamentsky’s Pinocchio in 70MM (trailer) with many films in-between.
woo, thank you!
@meldrik@lemmy.wtf - please update the post title to be in line with Rule #5: “The Amateur (2025, dir James Hawes)”
Reading this made my knees hurt.
I’ve been deeply frustrated by the progressive stance on trans people in professional sports.
Anyone who began medical transitioning after puberty will have reasonably notable physical differences from cisgender people in their appropriately gendered sport. It’s similar to doping, but something their body was doing naturally with incorrect hormones that didn’t reflect their gender.
I certainly don’t feel good about it, but I do think there is a very viable argument to disqualify those kinds of trans people (who medically transitioned after puberty) from competition. The debate becomes much more nuanced as you consider different sports where physical differences between gender matter less. Rugby, weightlifting; trans folks are out. Target shooting, chess, darts; no problem. It’s a debate to be had sport by sport, league by league. The whole issue should have been messaged that way from the beginning.
Queer advocacy groups taking a broad “all or nothing” civil rights stance on this was a HUGE mistake. It’s an argument they were destined to lose, only affected a minuscule number of athletes, and wasted so much time and effort that could have been spent on other battles for trans rights. US Democrats take their cues on queer issues from those queer advocacy groups, so they rolled with it and got trampled.
I really want to have a conversation with queer strategists and Democrat policy leaders to understand why this was the hill they decided to make trans rights die on.
There are lots of good spots on some of the steeper hills along the Chief Sealth Trail in South Seattle.
Sure, Chappel Roan is great and all, but I genuinely can’t get over the corporate name-dropping of a shitass company like Papa John’s in her title track.
Contrary to popular belief, bourbon may be made anywhere within the US:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bourbon_whiskey
“Tennessee Whiskey” has its own standards, most notably that it should be from Tennessee:
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