Just wondering what you do when the kids always want one parent over another?
Both of my kids are always about daddy (me). Even when mom spends time with them (2 and 5), they’re still asking about daddy all the time and it’s driving her crazy because they always want time with me rather than her.
I absolutely adore spending time with both of them. I’ll bathe them, put one of them to bed (mom gets the other one and we alternate), I help them get dressed in the morning, drive them to school and pick them up about half the time, change diapers and everything.
I’m very aware that you get 4 or 5 years with your kids then they’re not your little kids anymore and that part of all of your lives is gone forever.
If I’m (dad) already there and they ask for mommy, then I try to soothe them by saying I’m there for them. If they’re still upset and insist to have mommy then we swap. I don’t see it as a big deal that needs to be addressed (unless I’m in a non-negotiable situation such as having to rake them to school myself).