I already have great tools. But tools don’t work if other people decide to have a problem with the way I am. I’m autistic and NPD. In autism communities, people don’t like that I have an air of superiority. In NPD communities, people don’t like that I’m technically minded and nonresponsive to norms. I can’t turn either of those off. The problem is empathy, or as I like to call it, mind reading. People can tell I think of myself more highly than them, and it personally offends them. They feel like it’s an attack? I don’t say it, I don’t act like it, but they feel it. As for my part, well I feel violated that people are reading my mind without consent. Those thoughts are private. I can hide the thoughts by masking, but I don’t want to mask. The strategies I have are how to resolve conflicts and be respectful while being who I am. While wanting to live.

My conduct in the exchange at the top of this thread is exemplary. Personally, I think you’re just using vibes based judgement instead of facts based judgement. I have aggressive vibes, I know. It’s who I am, but it’s not how I act. I speak with a precision and clarity that is like a blacksmith’s hammer relentlessly striking metal. But I am gentle, but for the noisy clang of steel, when I choose to be. I was choosing to be gentle in that conversation up until they said I was banned again. If you disagree, I would prefer to be told so in facts rather than vibes.