• orrk@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      yes and no, things like gimp masks are “sub” attire because they outwardly signal submissiveness as by wearing it, you give up part of your personality (your face)

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        1 year ago

        This is patently untrue. I participate in fear play, and frequently use masks in my play. My favorite is a full-face mirror that looks a bit like Cobra Commander’s faceplate. Whole point is, the only thing my sub sees when they look at my face in a scene with that mask is their own face. I have a number of other masks, each with their own “flavor” that helps to set a headspace for that scene.

        Each Top does their own thing. To assume masks are purely Bottom attire is pretty presumptuous.

        Edit: I may have to use this as a costume idea for an upcoming play party. “Meatball Dom”. I like it.

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          1 year ago

          Oh dear, this sounds horrifying. Have fun.

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          1 year ago

          I wasn’t talking about all masks but gimp masks specifically, and yes I agree that things can have multiple uses/meanings based on context, but this is also somewhat of a uniform

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          1 year ago

          well, if you view skirts as a form of gender expression maybe, but everyone wears trousers, think of it more like business attire, your cashier in a normal store is not going to be wearing a suit, but a banker is not going to come in to work wearing surfer boy lounge PJs, these things generally signal something