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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Vegetable-School547 on 2023-07-13 20:34:11.

For some context, my wife (26) has always been a cat person. She has always helped at animal shelters, fostered cats, etc… She also has a plethora of cat related items. I (26M), on the other hand, don’t consider myself to be a cat or dog person. I like them both.

My wife has always been anti-dog and is very active in anti-dog subreddits (hence the throwaway. I don’t want her to know I’m writing this). This has never really bothered me, but I always thought she should give dogs a chance before she decides if she hates them or not (She’s never had a pet dog, only cats. We also currently do not have any pets, since our cat passed away in January.)

Last weekend was her birthday, and I thought it would be a cute idea to get a puppy from the shelter. I figured that not only would she be able to give dogs a chance, but she can have a new furry friend.

I tell her I have a present for her and give her a box with the puppy in it (don’t worry, he wasn’t in there for long and he had plenty of air holes). She got super excited because she saw the holes and thought it was a cat. When she opened it, she frowned and asked what this is. The conversation went like this:

Wife: What is this?

Me: It’s a puppy! I thought you could have a new friend to cuddle with!

Wife: You know I don’t like dogs. I don’t want to take care of it.

Me: I know you don’t, but we can work together and maybe your opinion will change. He’s really sweet, you’ll like him.

Basically, she cried and told me that shes angry with me. She said she doesn’t want to take care of some “ugly rat dog” (He’s a chihuahua). She has since locked herself in her office and is now sleeping on the pullout in there.

Ever since her birthday, she has been short with me and refuses to even look at the dog. Everytime she sees him she looks disgusted.

I told some friends about this and they said that she’s “crazy” for not liking dogs.

My brother said I’m an asshole for getting her the dog despite knowing she hates them.

I just wanted to help her feel a little but better about losing her cat, but now I feel like crap.

TL;DR: I got my wife a dog to help her cope with the loss of her cat even though she hates dogs