• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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    See that’s the wrong idea, meeting people in bars can be creepy and dangerous. For everyone alone that want to meet new people go for some classes or groups. In anything that you think interesting. Learn a new language, join a dance class, theater class, matial arts, Hiking group, advocacy, do some charity work, learn some obscure sport like disk golf, go do some larping… whatever floats your boat. Don’t go for things you don’t already like a bit, like if you are an indoor person don’t go for hiking, it can get old quick. This are the nice and cerified ways to meet new people without being awkward

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      There are lots of people who go to bars who aren’t creeps. I have several friends I can trace back to meeting while out drinking, and others from other activities like some of the ones you described. No need to shame people who socialize at bars

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        You are right! It wasn’t my intention, I corrected. But I’m a woman so that’s a real thing for us a lot of times

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          Yeah I get that, best to mitigate safety risks by going with others you already know, but that certainly defeats the purpose of this thread

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      Where can I find a drinking alcohol, making comments about sports that I stole from the internet, and playing so-so darts, class to sign up for?

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      not necessarily creeps but definitely true that bars are great if you wanna make friends with elderly alcoholics

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      What happened? Bars used to be the place to meet people.

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        TBH I’m not saying you can’t, just that it’s harder if you are not a social butterfly, which is a fair guess. My suggesrions are more natural, less invasive and less awkward. But IDK the intentions. I’m a woman and for me and many friends it’s very very hard for us to just start talking to a stranger. It’s dangerous too. I just wanted to give another option for someone that wants to make lasting relationships

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      This is the way. If you want to make friends it’s so much easier when you start with a shared interest. Made many good friends in martial arts despite not being great at making friends, the ice breakers were all taken care of for me.