Honestly have no clue. For me it really seems to be some kind of issue with gender norms or homophobia/biphobia, I did the whole work on/take care yourself thing in both looks and mentality, and started working out and eating better. As a result, the amount of attention I receive from gay/bi/bicurious men, as well as from bi and bicurious women has gone up dramatically, but the attention from straight women remains unchanged, basically almost none lol. I’m a bi guy with long hair and a beard that dresses a little bit different, but it’s not anything crazy out there lol. However it seems that people still notice or can tell, maybe even subconsciously, even though I’m mostly in the closet.
I’d just encourage guys to be the best version of themselves that they can be (which means putting a lot of effort in, unfortunately), as far as their financial situation, work, and health allows, and go from there. You never know if you don’t try and put yourself out there. I did (not through dating apps though), and think I discovered what I wrote about in the first paragraph. Which is very valuable information for dating in the future, at least for me.
I mean, I’m not at all homophobic, but I still don’t want to date them. The answer to “why don’t women want to sleep with me?” Is certainly not “idk, try sleeping with dudes?”
That’s not the point I was trying to make. The point I’m trying to make is that a lot of straight women don’t want to date bisexual men, even in a monogamous relationship situation.
Yeah there’s a lot of weird/hateful stuff that gets said about how bisexual people are more likely to cheat, are icky because they have sex with the same gender/sex, are carriers of STDs, are sexual deviants, are actually gay in denial and will leave you for someone of the same gender/sex, etc. It can negatively affect dating if you want a serious relationship.
Honestly have no clue. For me it really seems to be some kind of issue with gender norms or homophobia/biphobia, I did the whole work on/take care yourself thing in both looks and mentality, and started working out and eating better. As a result, the amount of attention I receive from gay/bi/bicurious men, as well as from bi and bicurious women has gone up dramatically, but the attention from straight women remains unchanged, basically almost none lol. I’m a bi guy with long hair and a beard that dresses a little bit different, but it’s not anything crazy out there lol. However it seems that people still notice or can tell, maybe even subconsciously, even though I’m mostly in the closet.
I’d just encourage guys to be the best version of themselves that they can be (which means putting a lot of effort in, unfortunately), as far as their financial situation, work, and health allows, and go from there. You never know if you don’t try and put yourself out there. I did (not through dating apps though), and think I discovered what I wrote about in the first paragraph. Which is very valuable information for dating in the future, at least for me.
I mean, I’m not at all homophobic, but I still don’t want to date them. The answer to “why don’t women want to sleep with me?” Is certainly not “idk, try sleeping with dudes?”
That’s not the point I was trying to make. The point I’m trying to make is that a lot of straight women don’t want to date bisexual men, even in a monogamous relationship situation.
Oh I see. That’s weird, I’ve never heard much about that. But I suppose I wouldn’t have
just further explanation, warning for biphobia
Yeah there’s a lot of weird/hateful stuff that gets said about how bisexual people are more likely to cheat, are icky because they have sex with the same gender/sex, are carriers of STDs, are sexual deviants, are actually gay in denial and will leave you for someone of the same gender/sex, etc. It can negatively affect dating if you want a serious relationship.