Today I learned that my ex has been stalking me online.
It’s not worth going into any details beyond that she dug out some old post of mine on the fediverse. She’s not someone I would expect to come here, but she went looking anyway and used it as an excuse to try and hurt me yet again.
I’m terrified that I’m going to have to file for an intervention order, I honestly thought she would be the one person who would respect being blocked but she made the effort to contact me regardless. It terrifies my that I don’t know this person anymore, I have no idea what she’s capable of and I have no idea where I’m safe anymore.
The one silver lining has been me finally learning to trust my friends, I’ve had so much support in such a short time that I feel truely blessed.
I’d just managed to put the last of my anxiety to rest a few short weeks ago, and now this. I know I’ll get better again, but a setback like this has me scared that I’m going backwards again.
Dude, I have been there with stalkers twice. One was a customer at a previous job (she had a history of violent offenses) and the other was an ex gf (she was a county sheriff). It’s scary af and exhausting. What I learned from abuse therapy is that stalkers are the people that don’t give a shit about boundaries. They only understand consequences. I highly recommend getting an injunction/restraining order. If it’s not granted, they’ll tell you what you need for it to be granted next time, so you can set that in motion. It also helps cops investigate and helps you file charges should “something odd” happen.
Stay safe, stay sane, and remember that it’s not your fault, no matter what her deranged mouth says.