• redfellow@sopuli.xyz
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    11 months ago

    Date at a random strangers house? No way, unsafe! Going over to random strangers house to pick up a cheap Louis Vutton? Aww yeah!

    I’m just saying, the predators probably mostly use easier ways to lure a victim than going through the trouble to find a date.

    • FraidyBear@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      I personally don’t know any women who have ever gone to someone’s house to purchase something. You meet in a well lit public place during the day, just like any sane person. Women do face threats to their health and safety when going out with strange men. It seems you’re under the impression that murder is what we are trying to avoid when it’s much much more common that women are raped and/or drugged on dates. Although avoiding murder is also a top priority but that’s a given for literally everyone on the planet.

      • Showroom7561@lemmy.ca
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        11 months ago

        I personally don’t know any women who have ever gone to someone’s house to purchase something.

        My wife and I sell things all the time online (Kijiji or FB market), and I’d say that women probably come 75% of the time.

        We do meet in the driveway, but they often come to our door when they don’t read our instructions. Never inside, although, I’ve been invited inside homes before when picking stuff up.

        High value items often require meeting in a public place, but guys will come to the house for those, too. In those cases, I’ll only do it during the day, and with at least three security cameras rolling and another person with me (wife, son, etc.).

        No seller is going to leave their house to meet someone for a $10 item, even though people do ask for free delivery on low value items all the time😂

        You do have to be sensible when buying stuff through online local markets. Check reviews on the person, check to see how long they’ve been on the platform, and what kind of items they have sale. I’ll ignore buyers who have new accounts and no previous interactions.

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          11 months ago

          If I’m selling something online I don’t want them coming to my house. I don’t like people to know my address and the stuff that I have.

          For example, if I’m selling a graphics card, it doesn’t take a genius to work out I probably have a quite a high spec (and recently upgraded) gaming PC. No point giving them the address as well.

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            11 months ago

            I do agree. It depends on what’s being sold, and who’s asking. My address only gets sent by phone text message and all higher value items ($1000+) have the provision that we meet at a local police station.

            The only shady people I’ve ever met are the ones who want me to go their place. 😂

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        11 months ago

        We sold a double strollor in the mid nineties. I was at home alone when the girl turned up to buy it on her own. It was raining so she came in to look at it. I never really thought about it the time. I was just happy that something was not going to waste at the time.

        Those Buggies cost an arm and a leg now.

      • redfellow@sopuli.xyz
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        11 months ago

        I’ve had lots of women come pick up plates/glasses when I got rid of my excess. Weirdest was a 155cm tall Asian woman who was at most 40kg. She took a 15kg box of assorted plates & cups and headed to the nearest bus stop. 😅

      • Björn Tantau@swg-empire.de
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        11 months ago

        I sent my wife to pick up a laptop the other day. With a ton of cash in her pocket. To the worst part of town. To the worst building in that neighbourhood.

        She said the guy was nice and that she gave him some tips on where to move once his contract was up.