I used to think i only told people about my autism in order to feel more comfortable or trusting. I suppose that’s part of it but i’ve begun to realize that the trust is what encourages me to share.

I want to give them tools to understand our communication with less friction.

Obviously I must continue to use my own tools to better understand the people around me but if i can avoid causing suffering before it happens ill do that too.

  • ForgetPrimacy@lemmygrad.ml
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    9 months ago

    That last sentence is exactly what I think / how I behave. If my actions/choices hurt someone, it’s absolutely my fault and “warning” them in no way absolves me or dilutes responsibility but if by “warning” them I can reduce the harm (from some potential miscommunication) then that is absolutely preferable to me than to unexpectedly harm someone to save my own mask.

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    9 months ago

    That’s good. It’s rough though, I really have to be selective about who I share with because sometimes it’s really changes the friendship dynamic. Relationships are hard

    I wish I could see statistics on how many conflicts are actually just based in misunderstanding

    • JoYo@lemmy.mlOP
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      9 months ago

      It’s especially rough through text with fellow autistic people. It’s like a knife fight were everyone gets cut.