I know Twilight but, hear me out - if you are into thinking about human nature, philosophy, love, sex, sm and more I highly recommend that video essay. I don’t really like to give an outline, since the essay is journey of itself.
I know Twilight but, hear me out - if you are into thinking about human nature, philosophy, love, sex, sm and more I highly recommend that video essay. I don’t really like to give an outline, since the essay is journey of itself.
The observation that incels crave to be desired, made me empathize more with them - great observation.
Couple that with the expectation that you will be the one initiating every encounter and escalation.
Like, women have fantasies of being strongly desired, but imagine you’ve never felt desired in your entire life and you also are expected to always be the one to make the first move, to have to take positive action to even move from socially invisible to desired or rejected (and most often the latter).
Sadly they don’t see, how they enforce structures that are source of their own suffering.