I have a long distance friend and I’ll admit we get super super flirty sometimes because of how lonely we both are.

So both of us haven’t been laid in months. 8+ for both of us.

Both of us started getting turned on the phone the other day, one thing led to another and she and I had some consexual “mutual masturbation” over the phone. Phone sex simply (cringe I know, but that itch was there)

After we had both finished I just felt sort of ashamed and gross for about an hour.

Is this normal? I’m still very inexperienced with sexuality in general because in such a shy shy guy.

Is this this what they mean when they say post nut clarity or whatever?

  • AzzuEnglish
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    7 months ago

    It’s normal in the sense that if you have some trauma around your sexuality, then yes you might feel ashamed and gross.

    But otherwise, no, this is not normal. I think it would be interesting for you to figure out why exactly you felt gross.

    Why I talk about “normal” so weirdly is that normal is one of those words that are incredibly damaging. Its only use is to make people feel bad about themselves, because essentially everyone is “not normal” in some way. Even if you’re “not normal”, this is not something bad. Being normal is not in itself something desirable.