• Chickenstalker@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    If both parties are 18 and above, it is none of our business. Many men are into cougars and many women like sugar daddies. Whatever floats their boat.

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      1 year ago

      Legally, yes. You can’t and shouldn’t prevent them from dating.

      But, it’s still creepy, it’s usually still predatory, and there can be a huge power imbalance. Basically, the main thing is whether either person can easily leave at any time - often the younger one can’t.

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        1 year ago

        I don’t know man. If at 50 I ran into a 20 something that was into dating me, I’d feel more like prey than a predator. But, who am I kidding? If the roles were reversed and I was a 20 something encountering a 50+ cougar, I’d still feel like prey. It’s definitely all about power dynamics, but I don’t think making assumptions about adult people’s situations based on age alone is appropriate or helpful.

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        1 year ago

        How is that any different than 18 year olds getting an apartment together and being too broke to easily move out if needed? And there are plenty of older people in the same boat financially. In fact most people live paycheck to paycheck.

        I guess what you really mean is that poor people should only date other poor people, to make it a fair power balance. /s

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      1 year ago

      Legally yes. Socially dating someone in the same life stage as you is the line. The half your age plus 7 rule roughly aligns to that.