Title and image source from this Mastodon toot by fatsam@mstdn.social. I even took the damn title because I couldn’t think of anything more apt.
As always, respect my trans homies or I make your pronouns was/were.
Title and image source from this Mastodon toot by fatsam@mstdn.social. I even took the damn title because I couldn’t think of anything more apt.
As always, respect my trans homies or I make your pronouns was/were.
Oh yeah Hamlet learns all his lessons too late so definitely don’t be a Hamlet…
Being in queer spaces there is a lot of rejection of the program that is considered “the model for success” the whole marry - a monogamous partner, have kids, get mega earning career - those are looked at as options. There are other models that are STILL success. Straight Cis guys in particular are very susceptible to comparing themselves to their peers and using hard numbers to compare. How much do you earn, how much can you lift, how many partners you have, how many friends … It seems quite frankly exhausting.
It’s also mental sabotage.
You are not a bundle of stats. You don’t have to compare any aspect of yourself to anyone else. Learning to actually like the person you are is way easier when you aren’t constantly ruminating on what you aren’t. You have blessings and it’s good for you to count them every now and then. Queer folk tend to all have their own openly burning trashfires but sometimes success is sometimes just realizing you are - all things considered - actually doing okay.
You don’t nessisarily need to “fit in”. You can be you and there’s people out there who are exactly your type of weird compatible. Opening your heart to people who are other types of weird than you is also great as giving what you are seeking is a great way to find what you are looking for when it comes to acceptance.