• papalonian@lemmy.world
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    If I’m not wrong, NEET = Not in Employment, Education, or Training

    Anon felt bad about being a leech off of society so he slicked his hair back and learned how to ride a skateboard, and is wondering why he still feels like a NEET.

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      Yeah, anon is still technically a NEET. That was my first thought, but then I noticed you forgot to mention the dancing. Maybe anon became a professional dancer and that’s how they make a living now? Somehow, I kinda doubt it though.

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      That’s what NEET technically means, but it’s taken on a greater meaning (especially on 4chan) of “person who lives in their parents basement well past the age it’s socially acceptable, has no social skills/is actively antisocial, has poor personal hygiene, and rarely (if ever) leaves the house”.

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      It’s a skill like anything else. It comes easier to some, harder to others, and it can be improved through repeated effort, exposure, and experience over time.

      Small talk is a good low risk situation that can give you opportunity to practice.

      Also, not living in the same place too long so you don’t build up a reputation of being awkward and oh god they know they all know I’m just a hairless chimp in a human suit why did I think this was a good idea oh shit oh fuck what do I say–

      “I’m doing good, how about you?”

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        Yeah, like all skills you get better by practicing it. Fuck it up? Yeah that happens don’t make the same mistake again.

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        let me correct my statement its not that i cant talk to people but my perspective on life makes it hard to relate to people outside my small circle of people from specific subcomunities it always feels like talking to aliens i can pretend to be one no problem but i’ll never be one

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      Step 1: Be honest about how nervous and awkward you are. It really busts up the pressure and things will get a little easier.

      Also there is an 80% chance that they are just as nervous and awkward.

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    You can’t date girls on bumble if you don’t have a job. And once you get a job, they’ll all think you’re a loser unless you have a fancy job. And once you have a fancy job, you’ll find there are more productive things to spend your spare time on.

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      Sounds like a win to me, spending your time on more worthwhile things than online dating.

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          The apps literally lose money if you get a date and start a relationship in them

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          Would you define a long distance relationship that’s lasted for multiple years with daily video chats as online dating?

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            That’s not really up to me, but no. I dated my wife for over a year online before we got married, and we’ve been together for a long time now.

            I’m more talking about dating apps and the relatively shallow hookups that come with that.

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      Where are you living? I’m wondering if this is a regional thing or not.

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    I don’t mind guys being awkward if they are at ease with it - I know this sounds like a contradiction but it’s not. I have dated guys who were, by the world’s standards, not outgoing or social or great at conversation, but who were clever as fuck, good in bed, and thoughtful, and not so entirely wrapped up in themselves.

    Employment though - my personal experience is that guys (the ones I have known) need to work or they get focused on threats, real or imagined, to the exclusion of all else.