A screenshot of a Tweet that reads: “Men a so weird. When they find something disgusting online they get all ecited and immediately go to share it with all of their pals lmao”

  • sab@kbin.social
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    28 days ago

    There’s so many weird societal constructs about how men are supposed to behave. I have never encountered any of that shit with my friends, but that’s probably partly due to a selection process where I have no interest befriending people who display toxic masculinity traits.

    If you genuinely think men obsess over disgusting shit and talk about who they want to fuck all the time, maybe take a moment to reconsider a) who you’re hanging out with or b) the cultural impulses you allow to shape your perception of the world.

    I think the main reason men act this way is that they’re trying to fit into an image of masculinity that has been imposed on them, in part through tweets such as this one.

    • Afghaniscran@feddit.uk
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      28 days ago

      Toxic masculinity?

      I’ve never known anyone except people on the internet to be all “everyone should be themselves and do what they enjoy”

      And then when someone enjoys something that they don’t like it’s suddenly “No, not like that! That’s toxic!”

      If you don’t like “disgusting” things or dark humour that’s absolutely fine but don’t call people toxic for liking it. I would say that’s a toxic trait in itself.

      I find feet disgusting but I’m not here to call someone toxic cos they have a foot fetish.

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        28 days ago

        I am not talking about people enjoying things that I don’t personally enjoy, I was talking about an instinct that men (allegedly) have to share quote disgusting stuff with each other.

        This post doesn’t seem to me to be about sharing a weird common interest with your friends. There’s nothing (inherently) toxic nor gendered about having weird hobbies.

        The post is about seeing something disgusting and immediately sharing it with all your friends who will also be disgusted, and portrays this as if it’s just a completely normal thing for men to do. And while I can kind of understand where the assumption that men behave like that comes from, I have never experienced anything like that with any of my friends, and I’m pretty sure I never will. So it seems like a bit of a misrepresentation.

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            27 days ago

            I could have been clearer - it kind of has to be read in context of how I personally interpreted the original post. So no worries at all obviously. :)

    • real_MS@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      28 days ago

      I think people just have very different definitions of “disgusting”. I thought of stuff like “hahahah the throw up because Surströmming” and not “people die in the most horrible way possible”. Wtf.

      • Leg@lemmy.world
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        27 days ago

        Yeah, I was picturing, like, Meat Canyon or Pregnant Sonic the Hedgehog x Shrek fanart. Disgusting-haha, not disgusting-snuff. I share gross stuff with my friends all the time, because cursed shares are weird and funny.