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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Cry-Baby-x on 2023-08-07 02:42:23.

For context I am a disabled wheelchair user. I have multiple conditions that cause me issues with balance, sleep, pain & breathing. I’ve lived with these conditions my whole life, however my life is very full. I love to travel & adventure and do just as much as other people, but I rely heavily on aids.

One of my close friends has started to have hypos (low blood sugar) within the past year, she’s only had three, but she feels very unwell when they happen, she gets cold and very dizzy, she starts trembling and sweating etc… It’s scary for her which I understand and sympathise with.

Diabetes and other conditions have been ruled out. Doctors are fairly confident that the hypos have been caused by her drinking habits, doctors have advised her to cut back and she’s lied to them saying she has. Last week she had another hypo as she told the doctors she’d cut back on drinking they have given a medication to help.

Today she wrote a Facebook post announcing she is fighting a disability and that she needs support from her friends & family to get through it. I ignored the post finding it a little over dramatic, but there was no need to comment so I didn’t. Within an hour or so she messaged me asking why I didn’t comment on her post, I told her that I didn’t feel the need to as we’d spoken privately about her doctors appointment and the medication.

My friend asked if she could come over as she was feeling low so I said sure. She came over with his husband, we were having a nice evening playing some cards and chatting when she bought up the hypos again, I was listening and being supportive when she said “I know what it’s like to be disabled like you now” I just lost my crap. I told her that she has no idea what it’s like to be disabled because she doesn’t have a real disability. It turned into a huge argument until eventually she left with her husband.

After she left I started to feel bad about what I said, I know she’s struggling with this, but to compare it to my disability felt really hurtful.

AITA?

ETA - “Low blood sugar, also called hypoglycaemia or a “hypo”, is where the level of sugar (glucose) in your blood drops too low.”

Edit to fix autocorrect.