I am a 51 year old bisexual man. It is difficult to properly put into perspective the progress that has been achieved. Listing major accomplishments like gay marriage doesn’t really capture the difference. Even non-queer people that cared for you saw you as different. I have been married for more than half my life and I can honestly say that back then my wife was with me in spite of my sexuality, but it was always something she worried about. It was like that with all who knew I was bi, and full closet for the rest. Now it feels as controversial or impactful as stating your favorite colour.
So, if hateful people ever make you feel that things are worse today and that you don’t belong, just remember that no so long ago, even your loved ones could make you feel like you didn’t belong, even if they didn’t mean to.
PS: Don’t even get me started on getting hate from gay friends for being bi.
PS: Don’t even get me started on getting hate from gay friends for being bi.
I was friends with a lesbian couple and they told me that both of them made sure the other one was definitely not bi when they started dating because [sic] Bis are the worst you just can’t date them. Your comment reminded me of that. I’m very sorry that you felt so alone for such a long time.
As a fellow bi man I feel like the progress in just the past 10 years has been huge, and one of the biggest changes has been how much more accepting other queer people have become.
I am a 51 year old bisexual man. It is difficult to properly put into perspective the progress that has been achieved. Listing major accomplishments like gay marriage doesn’t really capture the difference. Even non-queer people that cared for you saw you as different. I have been married for more than half my life and I can honestly say that back then my wife was with me in spite of my sexuality, but it was always something she worried about. It was like that with all who knew I was bi, and full closet for the rest. Now it feels as controversial or impactful as stating your favorite colour.
So, if hateful people ever make you feel that things are worse today and that you don’t belong, just remember that no so long ago, even your loved ones could make you feel like you didn’t belong, even if they didn’t mean to.
PS: Don’t even get me started on getting hate from gay friends for being bi.
I was friends with a lesbian couple and they told me that both of them made sure the other one was definitely not bi when they started dating because [sic] Bis are the worst you just can’t date them. Your comment reminded me of that. I’m very sorry that you felt so alone for such a long time.
Thank you. I often say that Bisexuals had to be closeted twice. Once for the homophobes and once for the homosexuals. (Anyone remember Chasing Amy?)
I genuinely believe that things started to get better once Anna Paquin came out as bi, especially after the cringe worthy Larry King interview.
As a fellow bi man I feel like the progress in just the past 10 years has been huge, and one of the biggest changes has been how much more accepting other queer people have become.
I feel like it’s been closer to 15 years, but I definitely agree that acceptance was the more drastic change.