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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ImpossibleDesk685 on 2023-08-07 03:00:11.

Hi, y’all. Very new to how this stuff works, so bare with me.

I 22F have a niece 13F I’ll call her Bailey. Her stepmom (been present all her life) is 37F I’ll call her Kiersten.

I have a small business on Etsy that I’ve been running since 2020 during the pandemic where I paint bibles or any book (I painted a Book of Mormon once) and sell them. This small business is how I make money on the side as my job doesn’t really support me enough.

My bibles are a little expensive this is because it takes a lot of time.

Bailey had recently joined Facebook, and I sometimes I post bibles I’ve painted just to have something to share. There’s not really a reason it’s just my personal page. My coworker Jennifer recently purchased a Bible from me, and I posted hers and tagged her in it. It was definitely one of my prettiest ones, so my niece messaged me if I’d paint her Bible.

I told my niece that I paint bibles as apart of my small business, so if she wanted one she might have to wait around for her birthday or Christmas unless her mom (Kiersten) wanted to get her one.

She asked why she wouldn’t get one for free because she’s family and I told her that the supplies cost money, on top of the time it takes me to paint them. I don’t blame her at all she’s 13 so I understand why she’d want one for free.

A few hours later I get a call from Kiersten, which was odd because I don’t talk to her as much as I talk to my brother and she asked me why I’d try to scam Bailey.

I told Kiersten that I wasn’t scamming Bailey and told her that I wouldn’t paint the Bible for free because it costs me a lot of money and time.

Kiersten said to me that it’s a fundamental part of being Christian to not be greedy and that I was trying to shake money from a little girl when I should just do it because she’s my family.

I told Kiersten that Bailey wasn’t just a little girl and that she can understand that people don’t work for free, I also said that it’s not that I wouldn’t, she’d just have to wait for her birthday or Christmas to get one which really isn’t that far away.

Kiersten then took to Facebook and made a post about how family members let her down sometimes, she also told my brother and my brother then told my dad.

It’s just going around the whole family tree.

I may be the asshole because Bailey is only 13 and she is my family but it’s also my small business. I get that Bailey is a kid, but I feel like I shouldn’t have to paint a Bible for her for free when it takes such a huge amount of my time.

TLDR: I have a painted Bible business, my niece saw one of my bibles and asked me to paint her one, I said that she’d have to wait for her birthday or Christmas unless her stepmom wanted to get her one. Stepmom thinks I’m TA for trying to get money from her daughter when I should do it just cause she’s my family.