• Kusimulkku
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    5 months ago

    Instead of "let me teach you” you could say “I’m sure you will understand” or “I know it’s difficult but you got this”.

    Especially the latter one can easily sound condescending. And then you’re in the shit again

    • vrek@programming.dev
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      5 months ago

      Yes, as I said it depends on you and your partner. Also the point is basically to say “I understand the struggle you are experiencing, here is some encouragement” without being a machine…

      As another user said in a better way…do you want to vent or do you want solutions? If vent recognize their pain and encourage them, if solutions try to help.