Is saying the word retarded without calling some it disrespectful? Is it now a trigger word? I’m genuinely wondering. Because when we were growing up we used the word EVERYWHERE. It was as common as saying “fricken”
It’s a slur, that’s why. Some slurs are major slurs that are considered offensive even when it’s not referring to someone, and I think this is one of them. They’re often forbidden because of it, and a lot of people find it easier to follow universal rules than to check the rules of each place they post, because the universal rules will keep you in the clear 95% of the time. And even if not, it’s still respectable to not want to use slurs.
And yeah, it did used to be a lot more common. And before that, it was a medical term. That’s the way it goes, we have a word to insult people’s intelligence, doctors deal with patients who have a disorder causing that, they don’t want to use the mean word to refer to the patients, they come up with a new word for it, the word gets out, and then everyone makes it a new word to insult intelligence. Though this one seems to be taking a different track because it hit modern sensibilities, and at the same time I think doctors now know better than to come up with a new word for mental deficiencies.
We used LOTS of words then that are now not ok to use. Growing as individuals and groups is a good thing, being attentive to others is a good thing, understanding that you see no offence to a word where others do and changing that behaviour betters everyone.
Who the hell is getting “disappeared?” Fascists use violence and force to enforce their beliefs. The also appealed to a mythos to support their idiology.
I think 13 is particularly relevant here: “Disdain for intellectuals and the arts not aligned with the fascist narrative.” It is the people saying treating people kindly who are being attacked by Fascists. They tell people that the “woke left is attacking us and making us change” as a means to dismiss things trying to create change to better care for all people.
Sure. I still don’t like it when people tell me how to speak my mind.
Fine. Most people don’t like being told what they’re doing is wrong. Those in favor of slavery and white supremacy get (or got) upset when asked to change as well. That doesn’t make it acceptable.
If I start insulting you or using slurs against you, I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it. You are more upset at being told that you may upset others than actually willing to change to not hurt others. You don’t want to be told you’re insulting people because it’s insulting to you. Do you see the issue? If you’re hurt by being told not to hurt other people, maybe it’s your actions that are the issue. Hypocracy isn’t valorant.
OK, I don’t think c/greentext is the proper environment to discuss this.
If you are that worked up about words you must lead a pretty good life.
I think I have used the Internet for too long to get upset about getting slurs hurled at me online. People are much more vile when cloaked by the anonymity of their keyboard. It’s been like that since Usenet and BBSs. That’s human nature. You’re free to not interact.
But trying to police stuff you don’t like just because “is enforcing your beliefs”. Nobody will be harmed by edgy comments under a post about 4chan. Not everyone is out to get you and needs to be canceled.
If you are that worked up about words you must lead a pretty good life.
I do, as I’m assuming all of us here mostly do, as we have access to electricity, computers, and the internet. I’m not worked up about it though. I’m trying to explain how something used in the past doesn’t justify it being used in the present. I’m also trying to get you to empathize with other people. You’re upset and don’t like being upset. Great. Now apply that to the words you’re using. See how they could upset others, and how others probably don’t like being upset either.
I think I have used the Internet for too long to get upset about getting slurs hurled at me online. People are much more vile when cloaked by the anonymity of their keyboard. It’s been like that since Usenet and BBSs. That’s human nature. You’re free to not interact.
But trying to police stuff you don’t like just because “is enforcing your beliefs”. Nobody will be harmed by edgy comments under a post about 4chan. Not everyone is out to get you and needs to be canceled.
I’m equally free to interact. You won’t be harmed by me informing you how others may not appreciate the way you speak. You are free to be racist online and spread hate speech. Probably no one is going to be able to stop you if that’s your desire. That would foster a bad community and may cause actual harm to people though, so we all recognize that it’s wrong.
Now, when we recognize other marginalized people are also harmed by other language, we have two choices. We can choose to improve ourselves, or we can blame society for not being like it used to be. Racists chose the latter and are looked down on. Hopefully we can all continue to choose the the former as we grow in life. Just because we used to do things one way doesn’t mean that was good, and having done bad things in the past doesn’t make us bad. It’s what we choose in the present that matters. Now, go forward in life and make your choices. I can’t choose for you.
Yeah you’re not supposed to even say “my son’s reading skills are somewhat retarded but we hope he can catch up to his peers”. Or “Progess on Trump’s border wall has been retarded for various reasons.”
People used to use the n-word all the time, so it must be perfectly OK to say!
This is the exact same argument. It doesn’t work, right? Why would it here? Sure, there may (I doubt it, but I’ll leave the possibility open) be other reasons why it’s OK to say, but throw that argument out.
Niger is the Latin word for black (not to be confused with the unrelated niger, as in the nation, which is not Latin in origin). We had stopped using it in English for anything but to (negatively) refer to black people. It didn’t have any use except as a negative one.
The same thing is true for the r-word, outside of specific contexts like music where to retard is to slow, as from Latin. Using them in the context of music or medicine is fine (which retard isn’t used for a medical condition anymore, but when things slow I belive the term is still used, because Latin). Using it to refer to a person or thing a person does is not. That term is only used negatively, which implies neuro-divergent people are bad.
Yellow can be bad also. If you’re referring to someone in a negative racist way as yellow, that’s not accepted in society, and I don’t think you’d disagree. You can still refer to the color, but to use it as an insult it’s not good.
We aren’t losing words. If they had any use outside of an insult, they still almost always still have those uses. We gain more words to better refer to people of these groups without insulting them though. Language evolves. Some words leave fashion and new ones come into fashion. I don’t think we need to be worried about “losing” words where we have perfectly good alternatives to use instead.
Why did you say fricken and not fucking? You do the same thing you critcise all in the same sentence. Its like a singularity of stupid. We gots ourselves a real stable genius here fellas!
Were the insults necessary or did they add anything useful to your comment?
As for the actual question in your comment, though your quick follow-up to insults suggests you meant it as a rhetorical question and just wanted to assume they were doing the same thing as they were criticizing, “fricken” (or “friggen”) was used in many cases by kids who were scared of getting in trouble for using “real” swear words. Which was the whole point of that comment: kids who were afraid to really swear casually used “retard” and many adults who would lose their shit over “fucking” didn’t bat an eye at “retard”. And even when they did, it was because of the insult to the one called “retard”. If anyone brought up mentally disabled people, it was more about furthering the insult rather than actually caring how they felt.
The other said what needed to be said. Do you talk to anyone the way you do? You do realize you’re talking to real people with real life experiences. And if you used any critical thought you’d understand the innocence of using the word “fricken” or “friggen” in my comment was to illustrate that in our child community growing up, we used the retard word along with that. And it was almost never used to call someone that, it was used to call a situation that. Like “that’s retarded let’s not do that”.
And yeah I don’t use that word anymore as an adult.
“IDGI, this person has the option to be the worst version of themselves. Why dont they choose to do that?!? Also why does noone want to be around me? Could it be that marinating my brains in a writhing compost of clapbacks and dunks is desensitizing me to my own dehumanizing? No. Clearly this is because woke.”
“whatever you want”… they wanted to be a respectful person.
Is saying the word retarded without calling some it disrespectful? Is it now a trigger word? I’m genuinely wondering. Because when we were growing up we used the word EVERYWHERE. It was as common as saying “fricken”
It’s a slur, that’s why. Some slurs are major slurs that are considered offensive even when it’s not referring to someone, and I think this is one of them. They’re often forbidden because of it, and a lot of people find it easier to follow universal rules than to check the rules of each place they post, because the universal rules will keep you in the clear 95% of the time. And even if not, it’s still respectable to not want to use slurs.
And yeah, it did used to be a lot more common. And before that, it was a medical term. That’s the way it goes, we have a word to insult people’s intelligence, doctors deal with patients who have a disorder causing that, they don’t want to use the mean word to refer to the patients, they come up with a new word for it, the word gets out, and then everyone makes it a new word to insult intelligence. Though this one seems to be taking a different track because it hit modern sensibilities, and at the same time I think doctors now know better than to come up with a new word for mental deficiencies.
It’s the euphemism treadmill in action.
That’s what it’s called, okay. I didn’t remember the term.
We used LOTS of words then that are now not ok to use. Growing as individuals and groups is a good thing, being attentive to others is a good thing, understanding that you see no offence to a word where others do and changing that behaviour betters everyone.
Nah, speech police is just a disguised form of fascism.
Dude, I don’t think you understand what fascism is about. Telling someone something is wrong isn’t fascism or saying murder is wrong would be fascism.
So the nazis didn’t disappear people who said the wrong thing? And people wouldn’t say the thing out of fear something might happen to them?
How different is that really? Did I use hyperbole? Sure. I still don’t like it when people tell me how to speak my mind.
Who the hell is getting “disappeared?” Fascists use violence and force to enforce their beliefs. The also appealed to a mythos to support their idiology.
https://www.keene.edu/academics/cchgs/resources/presentation-materials/characteristics-and-appeal-of-fascism/download/
I think 13 is particularly relevant here: “Disdain for intellectuals and the arts not aligned with the fascist narrative.” It is the people saying treating people kindly who are being attacked by Fascists. They tell people that the “woke left is attacking us and making us change” as a means to dismiss things trying to create change to better care for all people.
Fine. Most people don’t like being told what they’re doing is wrong. Those in favor of slavery and white supremacy get (or got) upset when asked to change as well. That doesn’t make it acceptable.
If I start insulting you or using slurs against you, I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it. You are more upset at being told that you may upset others than actually willing to change to not hurt others. You don’t want to be told you’re insulting people because it’s insulting to you. Do you see the issue? If you’re hurt by being told not to hurt other people, maybe it’s your actions that are the issue. Hypocracy isn’t valorant.
OK, I don’t think c/greentext is the proper environment to discuss this.
If you are that worked up about words you must lead a pretty good life.
I think I have used the Internet for too long to get upset about getting slurs hurled at me online. People are much more vile when cloaked by the anonymity of their keyboard. It’s been like that since Usenet and BBSs. That’s human nature. You’re free to not interact.
But trying to police stuff you don’t like just because “is enforcing your beliefs”. Nobody will be harmed by edgy comments under a post about 4chan. Not everyone is out to get you and needs to be canceled.
I do, as I’m assuming all of us here mostly do, as we have access to electricity, computers, and the internet. I’m not worked up about it though. I’m trying to explain how something used in the past doesn’t justify it being used in the present. I’m also trying to get you to empathize with other people. You’re upset and don’t like being upset. Great. Now apply that to the words you’re using. See how they could upset others, and how others probably don’t like being upset either.
I’m equally free to interact. You won’t be harmed by me informing you how others may not appreciate the way you speak. You are free to be racist online and spread hate speech. Probably no one is going to be able to stop you if that’s your desire. That would foster a bad community and may cause actual harm to people though, so we all recognize that it’s wrong.
Now, when we recognize other marginalized people are also harmed by other language, we have two choices. We can choose to improve ourselves, or we can blame society for not being like it used to be. Racists chose the latter and are looked down on. Hopefully we can all continue to choose the the former as we grow in life. Just because we used to do things one way doesn’t mean that was good, and having done bad things in the past doesn’t make us bad. It’s what we choose in the present that matters. Now, go forward in life and make your choices. I can’t choose for you.
Yeah you’re not supposed to even say “my son’s reading skills are somewhat retarded but we hope he can catch up to his peers”. Or “Progess on Trump’s border wall has been retarded for various reasons.”
No kidding
People used to use the n-word all the time, so it must be perfectly OK to say!
This is the exact same argument. It doesn’t work, right? Why would it here? Sure, there may (I doubt it, but I’ll leave the possibility open) be other reasons why it’s OK to say, but throw that argument out.
The n-word did not have any other definitions. Something that is retarded is merely delayed or slowed down usually in the context of some task.
It did though? It was used for black things. The word literally means black.
I’m not on any side.
But what happens if the word black becomes a slur, or blue or yellow?
Would we give way to those who misuse those words? Let’s not be complacent in letting others misuse language. Maybe it’s time that we corrected these.
Niger is the Latin word for black (not to be confused with the unrelated niger, as in the nation, which is not Latin in origin). We had stopped using it in English for anything but to (negatively) refer to black people. It didn’t have any use except as a negative one.
The same thing is true for the r-word, outside of specific contexts like music where to retard is to slow, as from Latin. Using them in the context of music or medicine is fine (which retard isn’t used for a medical condition anymore, but when things slow I belive the term is still used, because Latin). Using it to refer to a person or thing a person does is not. That term is only used negatively, which implies neuro-divergent people are bad.
Yellow can be bad also. If you’re referring to someone in a negative racist way as yellow, that’s not accepted in society, and I don’t think you’d disagree. You can still refer to the color, but to use it as an insult it’s not good.
We aren’t losing words. If they had any use outside of an insult, they still almost always still have those uses. We gain more words to better refer to people of these groups without insulting them though. Language evolves. Some words leave fashion and new ones come into fashion. I don’t think we need to be worried about “losing” words where we have perfectly good alternatives to use instead.
Why did you say fricken and not fucking? You do the same thing you critcise all in the same sentence. Its like a singularity of stupid. We gots ourselves a real stable genius here fellas!
Were the insults necessary or did they add anything useful to your comment?
As for the actual question in your comment, though your quick follow-up to insults suggests you meant it as a rhetorical question and just wanted to assume they were doing the same thing as they were criticizing, “fricken” (or “friggen”) was used in many cases by kids who were scared of getting in trouble for using “real” swear words. Which was the whole point of that comment: kids who were afraid to really swear casually used “retard” and many adults who would lose their shit over “fucking” didn’t bat an eye at “retard”. And even when they did, it was because of the insult to the one called “retard”. If anyone brought up mentally disabled people, it was more about furthering the insult rather than actually caring how they felt.
The other said what needed to be said. Do you talk to anyone the way you do? You do realize you’re talking to real people with real life experiences. And if you used any critical thought you’d understand the innocence of using the word “fricken” or “friggen” in my comment was to illustrate that in our child community growing up, we used the retard word along with that. And it was almost never used to call someone that, it was used to call a situation that. Like “that’s retarded let’s not do that”.
And yeah I don’t use that word anymore as an adult.
“IDGI, this person has the option to be the worst version of themselves. Why dont they choose to do that?!? Also why does noone want to be around me? Could it be that marinating my brains in a writhing compost of clapbacks and dunks is desensitizing me to my own dehumanizing? No. Clearly this is because woke.”