EVERYONE is running around screaming “Pedo! Groomer! Pedo! Groomer! Pedo! Groomer!”

The Cons think the pedos and groomers are gays and perverts. The Libs think the pedos and groomers are fundamentalist white men.

but all of that is noise. NONE of that has anything to do with real pedophilia, and “grooming” is pure fear-mongering bullshit.

The Trads don’t think that a young woman, say 13-years-old needs protection from a good white fundamentalist Christian man who wants to marry her. So for them her father’s permission is enough.

They think that all teens desperately need protection from homos and transvestites who will convert the next generation to the worship of sodomy.

In short fathers must control the sex lives of teens.

The Libs know damned well that dangerous homos aren’t canvasing high schools for potential converts. But they are terrified that a mythical “sex predator” will brainwash (“groom”) their sweet innocent 18-year-old and “abuse” (break her heart) him or her.

Normal hetero men who find teen women sexy (this is 100% of het men) are therefore very dangerous.

So they believe that the law, cops, prosecutors, and judges must control the sex lives of young adults (aka teens).

The real solution is to respect the bodily autonomy of young adults aged 14-18. Let’s get our laws off their bodies. Ultimately they decide anyway, and that’s why trying to give control of their sex lives to fathers or cops always causes far more harm than good.

  • PotentialProblem@sh.itjust.works
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    TIL I’m not normal. I’m old. Teens are not attractive to me. We have very little in common, they have no emotional maturity, and they haven’t gone through the trauma of raising a kid… and they look like children. I’m currently mostly into middle aged women, with the youngest being late 20s/early 30s.

    Are you advocating for legalizing sexual relations between a 14 year old and a 40 year old? If so, then I very much disagree. If not, and you’re advocating for kids to be free and explore relationships (with precautions), then, yeah, sure.

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      Trauma of raising a kid? You might be parenting wrong.

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      There’s a difference between attractive and attractive :-D

      Hetero men are attracted to boobs and hips, female secondary sexual characteristics. They are sexually aroused by that. This is simple biology.

      The social things, the personality of a potential romantic partner is a completely different thing. That’s mostly not biology. That’s psychology.

      My local priest is sexy as fuck. but I don’t want to date him. He’s a priest. and I’m married. See the difference?

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        I guess what I’m trying to tell you is that I don’t find teens “sexy as fuck”. I did, at one point, but now they remind me of children and I don’t find that sexually appealing.

        Also I have found people “sexy as fuck” based on qualities that weren’t their looks. I’ve also had the inverse interaction where someone I was attracted to became unattractive because of their personality. I, at that point, did not want to have sex with them and no longer felt any attraction to them. So, I’m not sure your assertions hold true in my experience. I’d wager this is biological at some level, but I’m far from an expert in this area.

        It’s not clear to me what you’re trying to get at here…

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          16 year olds are physically indistinguishable from 26 year olds. With a few changes in hair, make-up, and wardrobe 16 can pass for 26 and vice versa. People sexually aroused by 16 year old bodies are also aroused by 26 year old bodies, and vice versa. This is just an obvious fact.

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    Teenagers are idiots. They’re easy to manipulate, easy to traumatise. There’s no good reason for a 16 yo to want to bang a 40-50 yo.

    Teenagers need careful guidance, not absolute freedom.

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      That’s absurd. If teens were easy to manipulate they’d be doing all my yardwork for me for free :-)

      They are notoriously stubborn, which is the opposite of easy to manipulate.

      And their brains are much faster than older adults’. i.e. they learn everything much quicker. In some ways they are the smartest humans.

      If they’ve been infantilized, and constantly told they’re idiots, then, hey… take a minute to learn what a self-fulfilling prophecy is :-D

      Plenty of countries all around the world all throughout history have respected the bodily autonomy of young adults aged 14-18 and they all did just fine. It’s very strange that only now in the USA post 2010 are they suddenly brain-dead idiots. Hmmmmmm. Bizarre outlier.

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        You’re clearly too inexperienced. There’s nothing wrong with that - I simply wish you weren’t so daft about it.

        It’ll come.