i fucking hate kink at pride discourse
im sex repulsed and kink doesn’t trigger it at all, but you know what does? like every fucking pop song with explicit mentions to straight sex. or action movies randomly shoving a hyper male-gazey sex scene in. why the fuck is a leather harness considered too taboo but those are totally normally
real
its the constant, casual allosexuality and alloromanticism creeping into every crevice of human life that rly fucks with me
the constant reminders of ‘your friends will never consider you important as someone they’re smashing privates (or hoping to) with’, ‘society won’t consider you an adult until you get a partner’, and ‘some [a lot
] of people are nice just for sex’ stuff that gets to meand how all this means that basically every media has romance and sex–if it doesn’t the fans will turn every platonic interaction into a sexualromantic thing because “people just don’t [hug/cuddle/be a decent human being] unless they want sex or romance”
And even if there is sex or romance, fans will turn all the platonic relationships sexual anyway because “they have better chemistry” or “it’s obvious Sam really wants to sex/romance Frodo; there’s no other reason he’d go so far for him”
just,
yea, i get really brainwormy about my friends not caring about me enough as their romantic partners. doesn’t help that every single fucking time a friend of mine gets a romantic partner they suddenly never want to spend any time with me anymore. cos it’s totally normalized in society that you should prioritize romantic partners so heavily, ugh.
im ace but not aro, and i’ve stayed in toxic relationships for way too long just because of the fear of not being important to anyone if im not in a relationship
every single fucking time a friend of mine gets a romantic partner they suddenly never want to spend any time with me anymore. cos it’s totally normalized in society that you should prioritize romantic partners so heavily
Stay safe comrade, sucks out there sometimes
