My childhood home had many many problems, but one thing that wasn’t lacking was physical affection. I don’t know of it’s a Cuban thing or what, but almost every other family seems very dry to me. Like people that don’t kiss when they get home, sit touching each other on the couch, wait to eat together, are really uptight about nudity, …that is weird af to me. It gives me the impression that those family members are buddies/roommates. I still have to make conscious assessments in my head to understand relationships between family. I guess the part of the brain that learns family relationship norms is solidified pretty early.
It’s Kellogg/Protestant prudish white isolationist culture. I come from Alabama and Jehovah’s Witnesses. I think it is a sadistic anti enjoyment, everything pleasurable is wrong, - stupidity. I see all the American religions falling into a spectrum of this sadism.
I honestly think it stems from the overall con of organized religion. People that enjoy themselves spend some excess funds on themselves and others. The church con artists are incentivised to villainize all forms of excess money spent on anything because that is money that cannot be grifted by the con artist. White people tend to be most susceptible to this particular con, and likely also tend to have more self sufficiency in more rural communities. Not like white people are somehow better at self sufficient living; more like we’re miser assholes that choose to hoard what we have without the notion of collective social survival. Like I’m deeply stereotyping time and history here. I’m not saying “white people bad.” I’m saying we’re different too, a product of our environment, and being a realist asshole too. - it is our way - embrace it.
I think religion might have something to do with it, but I think its mostly parents (who were often too young to parent compared to now) taking out their frustrations on their kids because they had no other socially-acceptable recreational outlet to just hang loose after work other than drinking and TV.
My childhood home had many many problems, but one thing that wasn’t lacking was physical affection. I don’t know of it’s a Cuban thing or what, but almost every other family seems very dry to me. Like people that don’t kiss when they get home, sit touching each other on the couch, wait to eat together, are really uptight about nudity, …that is weird af to me. It gives me the impression that those family members are buddies/roommates. I still have to make conscious assessments in my head to understand relationships between family. I guess the part of the brain that learns family relationship norms is solidified pretty early.
It’s Kellogg/Protestant prudish white isolationist culture. I come from Alabama and Jehovah’s Witnesses. I think it is a sadistic anti enjoyment, everything pleasurable is wrong, - stupidity. I see all the American religions falling into a spectrum of this sadism.
I honestly think it stems from the overall con of organized religion. People that enjoy themselves spend some excess funds on themselves and others. The church con artists are incentivised to villainize all forms of excess money spent on anything because that is money that cannot be grifted by the con artist. White people tend to be most susceptible to this particular con, and likely also tend to have more self sufficiency in more rural communities. Not like white people are somehow better at self sufficient living; more like we’re miser assholes that choose to hoard what we have without the notion of collective social survival. Like I’m deeply stereotyping time and history here. I’m not saying “white people bad.” I’m saying we’re different too, a product of our environment, and being a realist asshole too. - it is our way - embrace it.
I think religion might have something to do with it, but I think its mostly parents (who were often too young to parent compared to now) taking out their frustrations on their kids because they had no other socially-acceptable recreational outlet to just hang loose after work other than drinking and TV.
Doesn’t have to be. It is known here in europe that southern countries like Italy and Spain are indeed more touchy and passionate.