Brush: AP Shave Co. Black & Clear w/ 30 mm Tuxedo Fan
Lather: Southern Witchcrafts - Valley of Ashes
Post Shave: Southern Witchcrafts - Valley of Ashes AS; moisturizer
Fragrance: Lalique Encre Noire À L’Extrême EdP
2-pass head shave. Good shave but a slight burn from the software.
My grandmother died yesterday in the late evening. Around 21:00, my mother called me as my uncle had just returned from the nursing home to inform everyone. In an ironic twist of life, he actually wanted to call everyone from his family to let them know that her health is now rapidly deteriorating and if we want to visit her for a last time, we should do so now. However, shortly after he arrived at home the head nurse called him on his mobile phone and informed him that she passed away.
To all of us, it’s as much a relief as it is a burden. Of course, she was either mother or grandmother to us and we hold her dearly in our hearts. On the other hand, her mental and physical state before her passing was atrocious and hard to witness. She stopped eating over a week ago. Could only drink in tiny little sips from a straw and later didn’t even had the strength for that. Tried to communicate with us, but couldn’t articulate anything anymore. I believe she wanted to tell us that we shouldn’t worry and that she wanted her life to end. The refusal of eating (and drinking) is somehow a last effort that people on the deathbed make to accelerate the process. Well, now it’s over and the memories of better days will stay with all of us…
Valley of Ashes is a grieving and somehow dark scent to me. The dark notes of leather, burnt rubber, smoke create this somber atmosphere. But there’s also a tiny spark of hope in form of something citrus-y, perhaps bergamot… I feel it fits my current mood best.
Then there’s also Encre Noire À L’Extrême. Also for me personally, a scent for gloomy and dark days. Vetiver, patchouli and incense are the heavy notes here, so I’d argue it’s almost a funeral scent. There’s nothing really happy in it so it’s difficult to wear - but again, quite fitting.
Folks, do me a favour and enjoy your life. And don’t forget to visit your family members regularly - you never you much time you have left, or how much time is left with them… Make the most of it.
Please accept my condolences for your loss. As the oldest person in my family, I can say that having loved ones depart is a natural order of things. It is much more acceptable to the heart if a loved one lived a long and full life.
A heartfelt thank you for your condolences 🙏🏻
Yes, of course - she was 91 years old and her numerous health issues made it a living hell for her. I also have my experience in the field of nursing, so I actually helped a lot of people during their final moments. Just hits a little different and harder when it’s a family member of your own, especially for my mom. Losing a parent is one of the hardest moments in life, I imagine.
Nurses are special in my book. They see other people at their worst and treat them well anyway. Much respect.
Losing a parent is only losing them physically. If you were close, especially as adults, you know them so well they never really leave you. They stay in your thoughts; both present and past.
Thanks again! I really like my work, even if it’s hard. Especially working with the elderly is often rewarding; there’s much wisdom to be shared by them.
I think mom is on a good way then - yesterday we talked about so many moments we shared with grandma and had a good laugh sometimes. 👍🏻
25.07.2024 Grieving SOTD
2-pass head shave. Good shave but a slight burn from the software.
My grandmother died yesterday in the late evening. Around 21:00, my mother called me as my uncle had just returned from the nursing home to inform everyone. In an ironic twist of life, he actually wanted to call everyone from his family to let them know that her health is now rapidly deteriorating and if we want to visit her for a last time, we should do so now. However, shortly after he arrived at home the head nurse called him on his mobile phone and informed him that she passed away. To all of us, it’s as much a relief as it is a burden. Of course, she was either mother or grandmother to us and we hold her dearly in our hearts. On the other hand, her mental and physical state before her passing was atrocious and hard to witness. She stopped eating over a week ago. Could only drink in tiny little sips from a straw and later didn’t even had the strength for that. Tried to communicate with us, but couldn’t articulate anything anymore. I believe she wanted to tell us that we shouldn’t worry and that she wanted her life to end. The refusal of eating (and drinking) is somehow a last effort that people on the deathbed make to accelerate the process. Well, now it’s over and the memories of better days will stay with all of us…
Valley of Ashes is a grieving and somehow dark scent to me. The dark notes of leather, burnt rubber, smoke create this somber atmosphere. But there’s also a tiny spark of hope in form of something citrus-y, perhaps bergamot… I feel it fits my current mood best. Then there’s also Encre Noire À L’Extrême. Also for me personally, a scent for gloomy and dark days. Vetiver, patchouli and incense are the heavy notes here, so I’d argue it’s almost a funeral scent. There’s nothing really happy in it so it’s difficult to wear - but again, quite fitting.
Folks, do me a favour and enjoy your life. And don’t forget to visit your family members regularly - you never you much time you have left, or how much time is left with them… Make the most of it.
My condolences for your loss!
Thank you very much, I really appreciate your kind words 🤝🏻
I also present you my condolences.
Thank you kindly!
Please accept my condolences for your loss. As the oldest person in my family, I can say that having loved ones depart is a natural order of things. It is much more acceptable to the heart if a loved one lived a long and full life.
A heartfelt thank you for your condolences 🙏🏻 Yes, of course - she was 91 years old and her numerous health issues made it a living hell for her. I also have my experience in the field of nursing, so I actually helped a lot of people during their final moments. Just hits a little different and harder when it’s a family member of your own, especially for my mom. Losing a parent is one of the hardest moments in life, I imagine.
Nurses are special in my book. They see other people at their worst and treat them well anyway. Much respect.
Losing a parent is only losing them physically. If you were close, especially as adults, you know them so well they never really leave you. They stay in your thoughts; both present and past.
Thanks again! I really like my work, even if it’s hard. Especially working with the elderly is often rewarding; there’s much wisdom to be shared by them.
I think mom is on a good way then - yesterday we talked about so many moments we shared with grandma and had a good laugh sometimes. 👍🏻
I’m sorry to hear that. She sounds like a great lady who was loved by her family.
Thank you 🙏🏻
Indeed she was. Cared for me like I was her own child, helped me and mom with whatever she could do.