I’m becoming more aware of the rest of my own body and its sensations, and I’d like to hear perspectives from the community: where when and how do you like to be touched? For simplicity let’s say only your partner’s hands.
For genital contact, I like when my partner grabs my penis at the base and squeezes hard. Something about the way the blood surges under their grip.
For other contact, it depends on gender. With men, I like the way a guy can squeeze my shoulders/arms. I think it’s a strength thing, with both our muscles flexing together. With women, it’s 100% when they grab the hair on the back of my head while I’m going down on them. It’s a very intimate moment of course, and I like how if I hit a spot just right with my tongue or nose that I immediately get feedback from her through her grip.
Inner thighs, the small of my back, running their fingers over my stomach for gentle caresses.
Grabbing my hair and my throat for not-so-gentle touches!
I’ve never felt comfortable grabbing a woman’s hair roughly. There’s something about the power dynamics and gender difference which get to me. Next time she’s seems into it I’ll be more open. Thanks for sharing.
Oh for sure, gotta discuss that beforehand! That’s why communication is so important, let everyone know each other’s likes and dislikes and limits etc
I’ve always loved being scratched (and bitten, slapped, whipped, etc - I just love pain). My wife scratching her nails up and down my arms can send me to another world.
Yeah I was with a guy once the liked being bitten, particularly when close to orgasm. I was happy to oblige even if I didn’t quite understand. Aren’t human brains interesting?
I don’t like being touched in particular areas. Makes me super uncomfortable. I’m big on hugs and cuddling, tho.
Yasss hugs and cuddling <33 I am generally okay with being touched anywhere (depending on the context of course) but one place - my bellybutton. I hate it. Idk what it is but it makes me feel ill
I have dated women like that and get many, many conversations on belly button consent because it’s hard to resist the random poke (with a finger, mind).
Didn’t know that was common, i always feel weird telling people because it’s like a hard no for me and sometimes people think i’m joking or something. Sucks, i really wish i could enjoy seeing other people’s tums and cool piercings.
My pp
Left ear lobe. My top zinger. Better than touching my dick.
I was just reading about ear lobes being an erogenous zone. That explains why so many partners have tried that on me. You’d have more success with just touching my fingers and arm hair lightly lol. I’m going to try out ear lobes next time for sure.
When my girlfriend first brought up ear stuff i was…skeptical but it’s been surprisingly good and there’s so much stuff you can do :)
As a dude, there are a few places I like to be touched:
- Nipples - not sure why, but I love being touched or sucked there
- The pelvic area where the leg joins up - I LOVE being kissed there
- Testicles - play with it any way you want, as long as it isn’t squeezing it should be fine
- During sex, a partner was lightly scratching my back while moaning. Made me finish on the spot.
where the legs join up
By any chance do you mean the perineum, i.e. “taint”? Any pressure there is very sensitive on men especially since the rest of the penis and a bunch of glands are under there.
Ah, no - but I can imagine why you may think that.
I just found a diagram and highlighted in red what I meant as I explained it poorly lol
ohh okay yeah I see. I think there are a bunch of muscles there that might be nice to touch, because I can get pretty sore in that spot after a workout. a massage or any contact there would be stimulating!
I’m not into being choked but when my wife is riding me cowgirl style and she puts her hands near my throat it really gets me going.
Yeah that sounds pretty hot. Cowgirl + hands near throat could be a power dynamic thing. It’s not at all about being choked!
i like a lot of the usual things so i’ll skip those. One of the ones that people are usually confused about or think is a joke: the bridge of my nose. Like right where it meets the forehead. Something about pressure or being held there just feels really good and safe. It’s like i can turn my mind off a bit and just enjoy whatever other sensations are going on.
On the flip side i don’t enjoy nipple stuff at all. i want to get it but it just doesn’t feel interesting. It’s kinda fun if someone wants to torment me though, it’s a bit like being tickled?
Interesting. Do you wear glasses? If yes, I wonder if it’s somehow related.
I feel you on the nipple stuff. Do you identify as male? I think our nipples just don’t respond the same way.
i do yeah, i didn’t get them until i was older though. Just figured everyone saw like that… Eventually i couldn’t read what was on the board in my uni classes. Unsure if it developed before or after that 🤔
Could be part of it but i think it’s more that there’s a lot of nerves near the eyes and it does something for me on a kink level at times.
And nope, no gender for the most part. i’ve had estrogen dominant and testosterone dominant parts of my life, tried progesterone for a while. Still just not into it. Before all that they were sensitive it hurt a bit but now it’s not nearly as bad.
Nothing gets me up and running faster than soft caressing the sides of my belly.
I loved to be touched! I love to be gently stroked on the side of my neck down to my shoulder. I also like to have my chest hair rubbed. Dig your nails in there, too.
As for my dick, tease my frenulum. That will drive me crazy. Just be careful. I have a very short fuse. It’s likely to blow up in your face! ;)
Oh man the frenulum! I haven’t tried with a partner because things heat up too fast, but when I want a very slow masturbation session I will only rub the frenulum. Even circumcised, this works as long as I’m feeling really horny.
Heat up too fast? Story of my life!
And yeah, it’s mind boggling. I’m circumcised, too, and it will make me cum!
Honestly anywhere and everywhere which is probably why I love sex so much. But nipple stimulation is probably the best of the best. That or my mouth.
I gotta ask, what gender do you identify as? I find women are way way more sensitive with nipple play.
