Sometimes I enjoy talking to feminists and misandrists. It helps me to understand their viewpoints. Some feminists are open to debate and some are not. I don’t try to change their minds. It can be pretty toxic.

I was messaged by feminists on reddit. They read my post history. I haven’t said anything misogynistic. They called me an “incel” and a “misogynist”. I remained calm when they hurled insults. If I lashed out, it would prove to them I am a misogynist. They want their opponents to get angry.

One woman who messaged me said she is proud to be a misandrist. She said men are worthless, driven by hormones, and many other nonsense things. She also said women don’t perpetrate domestic violence. Eventually I got her to calm down and she became more respectful.

I think a lot of feminists misunderstand what MRAs believe in and want. There was a question in the r/askfeminists sub if feminists would collaborate with MRAs. Many of the feminists said no. One commenter said MRAs are misogynists. Another said men are not oppressed, so there’s no need for MRAs. Some people hate us for doing the right thing.

Some feminists have told me there’s a difference between feminists and misandrists. Most feminists think they’re normal people. I think some misandrists use feminism to their benefit. Governments and corporations definitely use feminism against men.

I don’t know too many feminists in real life. I don’t talk about feminism or politics with the women I know. It is silently understood that most people believe in equality. I’m also an egalitarian.

After knowing about men’s issues, I don’t want to pretend like they don’t exist. If I started dating a feminist, I don’t think my political views would align with hers. I’m not sure if it would be a good idea to talk about men’s issues.

Do you think it’s better to avoid dating women who identify as feminists? If you date a feminist, is it a good idea to talk about men’s issues?

  • Theimportanceofbeingnice@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    In my experience women who identify as “feminists” are a red flag even if not radicalized or only passingly familiar with the concept. They almost alway turn out either self involved or in the process of being radicalized.

    Feminism as presented in medias and politics for the last ten years has been very masks off. Very teenage girl tantrums. People who identify with that are bad news.

    Over the last few years I’ve learned self-love and stopped bending over backwards to accomodate my friends and started expecting to be treated fairly. The feminists have evaporated like dew in the sun, the actual friends are closer than ever.

    Modern feminism appeals to the types who want to feel superior and/or make everything about themselves. At this point in my life I’m no longer willing to put up with that and so they selected themselves out of my life. I’m much better for it.