I have recently discovered that I am hypermobile but social anxiety and the pain prevent me from going to a doctor (also I don’t trust them and they scare me) Do you have any tips on living with chronic pain? Anything from over-the-counter drugs and physical aids to tips for everyday tasks I know I’ll have to talk to a doctor someday but in the meantime I’d like to be able to survive lol

  • BearOfaTime
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    2 months ago

    See a doctor.

    Seriously. They can help. Not all of them, and they can be a real barrier to getting the help you need. And it takes time to work through them.

    I had one asshole actually tell me “well I guess you’re gonna have to learn to live with it”. I’m lucky to not be in jail, I came very close to knocking that doctor’s head off.

    Now I have a moderately sympathetic doc, I’ve learned how he views things, and the way I have to present information so he can justify the treatments and meds he prescribes.

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      2 months ago

      I second this. OP, you say you’re mistrustful of doctors. That impulse isn’t necessarily a bad thing! Doctors are people, and sometimes people ain’t shit. If you meet one that sucks & just tells you some variation of “deal with it”, you are well within your rights to tell them to pound sand & find a different doctor. It can be discouraging when the first / first few you see suck ass, but the right doctor can make a huge difference.

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        2 months ago

        Doctors are people

        Exactly. Some suck. Some are assholes. Some are having a bad day.

        As a consultant, I’ve been all of these to my clients at one time or another (well, I hope I don’t just suck). I’ve misunderstood them. I’ve made mistakes. Doctors are no exception.

        Then there’s personality - you gotta figure out how to communicate with each person, not really any different than at work.