• comrade_rain [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    He does struggle with a lot of personal stuff. Health/disability issues. Medical cannabis to cope with chronic pain.

    Before he was a mod I used to chat with him quite a bit on my lemm.ee alt.

    pronouns

    I’ve seen a picture of him. Very masculine presenting, so I assume he uses he/him pronouns

    • Cowbee [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      That’s sad to hear. Hopefully the pain has a cure or treatment, but health issues are awful regardless.

      I think they need to take a step back, maybe purge their online presense for a bit and come back later, do a bit of a detox.

      As for pronouns, Flying Squid doesn’t list them so I don’t use he/him, that’s just my personal stance. I know people who go by they/them or none/use name online (my fiance being one of them) despite having a binary gender, so I’d like to respect that at least unless I find a statement otherwise.

      Thanks for the insight!

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        No I feel you on the pronouns. If I hadn’t seen a picture I would use they them as well. And maybe I still should even having seen a picture.

        Hey I also really appreciated your analysis in that thread. I read the comment you linked.

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          Thanks! I try my best, even though I’m not nearly as well read as I’d like to be, but I think I have enough of an understanding to do more good than bad in a room of liberals, haha. heart-sickle