Gamergate was definitely a tipping point. Dudes I’d thought were totally rational and on the level started showing their asses, and no amount of my trying to talk them out of it changed anything. Think the moment I gave up on trying to re-educate was somebody I’d grown up with, known for more than half of my life hard-r’d me for trying to investigate their misogynist fuckery and I’m just struck there like “how long have you been like this? how long have you been like this and just hid it from me like that?”