• I_hate_you_welcome@feddit.nl
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      1 year ago

      Thanks for making this all about yourself and your gender! Damn I’ve never seen anyone this insecure about the problems of their gender NOT being the main focus for once.

      • Dojan@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        You don’t hang out in women’s spaces a lot then. The amount of times a conversation about women’s issues in women’s spaces turn into “what about men??!!” is staggering. It’s hardly surprising the opposite would happen.

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          1 year ago

          I don’t see that as a weakness, wish more men would do it the other way around as well.

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            1 year ago

            i wish more men would talk to other men about their issues in general.

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            1 year ago

            So shutting down discussions about women’s issues to put a focus on men is OK, but the reverse is not?

            It is absolutely important for men to talk about their issues, we do face a lot of issues brought on by a stupid stereotype of what masculinity is supposed to be. We’re not helping anyone by silencing them though, nor do we help ourselves by pushing our cause over those of others.

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              1 year ago

              My message eli5:

              Derailing whataboutism = Stupid

              Caring about other people’s issues while talking about yours = Good

        • I_hate_you_welcome@feddit.nl
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          1 year ago

          So, because this shitty thing happens to one gender you think “let’s subject the other gender to that too” Because in your eyes the world would be better if the problems are doubled.