Hey! I started finding out what being trans actually means about half a year ago, and as I look into it more and more, I am realizing just how much of that stuff relates to me, or sounds like what I want to be, and I really wanna look further into it.

I was wondering what are some good resources, stories of trans people or other possible signs, that would help me answer my question.

My main issue is that I do not like my body. I always thought it was because I am fat, but now that it could be something else, I have no idea where to look and see which one it is, which is something that has really been bothering me lately. I also don’t like quite a few aspects of “male” society, but again, that could just be normal.

I just want to know who I am, I wanna be able to question myself and find out things about myself I would’ve not found on my own

Please don’t reply with “you are trans” or “you aren’t trans”, I want the only person that answers that question to be myself.

I’d just appreciate some help, some resources, something to read up on to find out what’s wrong with me

  • Triasha-she/her@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    So, you are on the right track to assert that the only person that can say you are trans is you. At best, we can give you things to think about.

    First, you focus on your body, and mention your weight as unsatisfying. If you lost a bunch of weight and worked out every day, what would make you happier? A muscular, masculine body? With big shoulders and strong arms and thighs? Or would you preferred a smaller, athletic, feminine body? That still had some fat in your breasts and butt?

    Would you like a soft feminine face? Or a handsome, masculine face?

    If that doesn’t make it obvious, what about relationships? Would you like be your parents son? Or their daughter? Would you rather be a girlfriend? Or a boyfriend? If you get married, would you like to be the bride? Or the groom?

    If you have children someday, would you be comfortable as their dad? Or their mother?

    “Neither” is also an option. Maybe you are non binary or agender.

    I hope this helps you to consider what you want for yourself. None of these questions can 100% guarantee you are trans, but each can offer evidence one way or the other.