I agree with your point on small software comps, issue is, I was still very unsure about my identity when I got hired, which is imo the only reason they took me, considering Im constantly disrespected, called by my deadname although I have made it clear I don’t want to be and I constantly listen to my coworkers talk about the “insanity of gender politics” as most of them are in the age close to retiring, which didn’t make it easy to actually learn to be myself

also wow you have alot of experience!! :o