Yeah, that’s also where I ran into issues, I’m quite reserved socially but with the right people and the right vibe I can come alive. In my personal life I’m known for my dinner parties and other sort of old fashion gatherings, but those spaces are very curated by me so I’m much more relaxed. Same goes for compassion and all those other complex emotions, I can be uncomfortably devoid of them but then I can also flip a switch and be all over it.

I feel the exact same way. A lot of the questions I do need context. Like, is the party organised by me? Or will it be a family gathering? I like the library, but would it be during school hours and after babies/toddlers have gone or will it be after school or in the morning for story time. Like there are so many different variables.