• IonAddis@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I think this perspective is very important to think about. Very, very important.

    A human being’s ability to be rational and logical is highly tied to their emotional state. We are naturally emotional creatures–and that’s not even necessarily bad, that’s just a fact. We are not Spock with inhuman emotional control, we are not Data, androids without emotions.

    It’s only logical to ACKNOWLEDGE that, and put into place plans that take into account one might be pretty emotional about something, and it’s better to do something to help with the thing that’s upsetting you if you notice that thing is hindering you from acting logically, so that you can fix it and THEN go on to make other logical plans that you might have been prevented from making before because the one thing was weighing heavily on your mind.

    Sometimes getting “peace of mind” gives mental room to be able to act coherently on other issues. And that can snowball into good returns, good choices.

    I think the people who pretend you can magic emotions away without actually dealing with them are very likely the ones who make tons of decisions emotionally–without realizing that’s exactly what they do. Then they strut around thinking they’re so logical and maybe even write posts and articles wondering why other people “aren’t” logical on Topic of Interest, while their partners and family members with a higher EQ pick up the pieces around them from their emotional reactions to things.

    (I see guys in particular do this, because guys don’t get much encouragement or education on handling their emotions, so they’re often transmuting them all into anger, or just ignoring they exist–then the emotions pop out at the worst possible time because they’re never dealt with.)

    (But I’ve also run into women too.)

    (This behavior is very common for nerds, male and female alike. You’re not really “mad” if you can browbeat people with “facts” and “logic” right? You’re logical, not emotional, right? But it’s not exclusive to this group, it pops up everywhere.)

    (For the record, I tend towards this too when I’m upset, although I’ve tried very hard to mellow with age.)