Hey, cis people: Most of you have never met a xenogender person or been in a situation where your actions mattered to them, right?
Here’s a word of advice: When you meet your first xenogender person, the way you treat them is your attitude on ALL xenogender people until proven otherwise. If you attack the first xenogender person you’ve ever met for having a “silly” gender, then you’re a transphobe. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re somehow protecting trans people, because hatred and dismissal and erasure is the way you treated 100% of the xenogender people you’ve ever met.
I really don’t understand why this is so hard to grasp. As a cis person, if I meet someone with a gender identity that I don’t understand, I just go “Oh, whatever, glad they’ve found an identity that’s working out for them.”
It doesn’t affect me in any way what someone else I meet identifies as, so there’s no need to get bothered by it. Weird how a lot of the libertarian types of libs insist that they want people to have freedom to behave how they want, but seem to be some of the most likely to mock and belittle non-cisgendered people for doing exactly that.
Unfortunately most cis liberals don’t explore strange new gender identities, and they don’t seek out new life or new presentations. So their only experience with the strange is from transphobic jokes. You see, transphobes seek us out. They want to meet us, so they can make fun of us and use us in propaganda before we get around to representing ourselves.
So a liberal sees a dronegender person, and their thought process is “I’ve never seen that in the queer spaces I’ve never been to, but I’ve definitely seen that in 4chan threads attacking trans people. This gender identity must be an attack on trans people.”
I guess they aren’t really “meeting” you so much as they are “using you to confirm their preconceived notions about people different from them in order to compensate for their own issues with self-esteem, while also pretending they are brave heroes fighting an imaginary enemy.”
Which is something I do have experience with. It really sucks when you’re just quietly being yourself and having some asshole insult and mock you for existing.
I never really understood the suppression of Xenogender people from more liberal trans spaces until now, so thanks for helping to educate me!
Hey, cis people: Most of you have never met a xenogender person or been in a situation where your actions mattered to them, right?
Here’s a word of advice: When you meet your first xenogender person, the way you treat them is your attitude on ALL xenogender people until proven otherwise. If you attack the first xenogender person you’ve ever met for having a “silly” gender, then you’re a transphobe. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re somehow protecting trans people, because hatred and dismissal and erasure is the way you treated 100% of the xenogender people you’ve ever met.
I really don’t understand why this is so hard to grasp. As a cis person, if I meet someone with a gender identity that I don’t understand, I just go “Oh, whatever, glad they’ve found an identity that’s working out for them.”
It doesn’t affect me in any way what someone else I meet identifies as, so there’s no need to get bothered by it. Weird how a lot of the libertarian types of libs insist that they want people to have freedom to behave how they want, but seem to be some of the most likely to mock and belittle non-cisgendered people for doing exactly that.
Unfortunately most cis liberals don’t explore strange new gender identities, and they don’t seek out new life or new presentations. So their only experience with the strange is from transphobic jokes. You see, transphobes seek us out. They want to meet us, so they can make fun of us and use us in propaganda before we get around to representing ourselves.
So a liberal sees a dronegender person, and their thought process is “I’ve never seen that in the queer spaces I’ve never been to, but I’ve definitely seen that in 4chan threads attacking trans people. This gender identity must be an attack on trans people.”
I guess they aren’t really “meeting” you so much as they are “using you to confirm their preconceived notions about people different from them in order to compensate for their own issues with self-esteem, while also pretending they are brave heroes fighting an imaginary enemy.”
Which is something I do have experience with. It really sucks when you’re just quietly being yourself and having some asshole insult and mock you for existing.
I never really understood the suppression of Xenogender people from more liberal trans spaces until now, so thanks for helping to educate me!