Usually when someone is venting at me, I feel like I should respond somehow and say something, but I have no idea what that something could/should be. Is it better to just listen or try to comfort them in some way?

  • koreth
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    1 year ago

    That last part is what I struggle with as someone whose mind always tries to see things from opposing perspectives whether I want it to or not.

    Sometimes my wife will come home pissed off about something one of her coworkers said. She’ll tell me the story and I have learned the hard way that “I think your coworker had a point, because X” is not what she wants to hear from me.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah I have this problem too. If I’m missing something, I want someone to point it out to me. I never feel like my feelings need to be validated if they aren’t rooted in reality.

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      1 year ago

      It is definitely situational; someone coming home frustrated and venting, probably not the time to offer suggestions or counterpoints; but a casual conversation when hanging out, then folks are willing to discuss if something was right or wrong.

      I learned this the hard way from my wife over many years…