• BastingChemina@slrpnk.net
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    9 months ago

    Something I’ve been told that is actually quite important too: for the chores to be equally split both partners needs to do at least 60% of the household work.

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    9 months ago

    Is this really a controversial stance in the UK? Ive been cooking and cleaning for myself since I moved into my first apartment, at least. Never mind the promise of ‘domestic bliss’, kind of just sounds like the bare minimum of being a considerate partner and an actual adult.

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      9 months ago

      Although a majority of Britons agree that adult couples sharing a home should do equal amounts of housework, two-thirds of them admitted that women ended up doing much more

      Evidently yes.

  • FatLegTed@feddit.uk
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    9 months ago

    I already do quite a bit of the housework, as well as most of the cooking. Always have.

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    9 months ago

    This is the best summary I could come up with:


    The new British social attitudes survey has just been published, and it reveals that although a majority of Britons agree that adult couples sharing a home should do equal amounts of housework, two-thirds of them admitted that women ended up doing much more.

    Inspired by the notion that “real men cook”, my husband now makes a mean cinnamon bun, and his apple-chip salmon was recently reviewed as “to die for”.

    The weekend living supplements have not been lying: Danes love a chic minimalist home, so no one puts up with clutter or cobwebs.

    Their big brother attends a weekly “food lab” at school where he has learned to rustle up messy yet edible scrambled eggs and porridge.

    In Denmark, a quarter of all teenagers attend a subsidised residential boarding school or efterskole for a year or more from the age of 14 where they learn to cook, clean and launder for themselves.

    A teacher friend tells me she can spot efterskole alumni a mile away in her equivalent of A-level classes: “They’re much more grounded and mature.”


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  • S_204@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    I cook, I clean, I bath the kids and do daycare runs, I’m the one that updates the family calendar so we’re all in the right spot…when do I get some help dethatching the lawn? Or renovating the bathroom to match some Pinterest post?

    Fair is fair after all. Just doesn’t seem all that fair.

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      9 months ago

      So communicate with your spouse. Absolutely no one’s saying you need to do everything yourself. Ideally it’s 50/50, even if the 50’s don’t look the same.

      Also, not saying this is your case, but sometimes when I feel like I’m the person doing everything I’ll ask my spouse to remind me of their 50. It’s easy for me to see what I do and when I’m low it feels harder to see what they do. So I tell them I’m having a myopic moment and ask them to point out some of their 50 to knock me out of it.