I’m retired early at 35 and haven’t worked since before I was 30 (injured veteran.) While limited, I had a fairly functional external life pre-rona but since then my ex I was with for a decade left at the end of the pandemic and I hadn’t been around anyone else my people muscle has atrophied.
I’m bad with people because I’m not around people much, but I’m not around people much because I’m bad with people. I’m bad with people because I’m not around people muchbecauseI’mbadwithpeoplebecauseI’mnotaroundpeoplemuchbecauseI’mbadwithpeoplebecauseI’mnotaroundpeoplemuchbecauseI’mbadwithpeople
AHHHHHHHHHH
A little bit of alcohol and the right kind of music ahead of time. No weed yet that day, if that is manageable. You need to remember, so leverage things that make you remember, like specific songs. The alcohol just loosens you up a little, dulls the sharp point of anxiety slightly. It’s training wheels, don’t let yourself use it as a crutch.
That might work well for you. and while it is apprechiated that you share your experiences please keep in mind that this wont work for everyone. especially the use of drugs (even when they are legal) isnt a good idea for everyone. Keep in mind Rule 4.
Alcohol is one of the reasons I mostly stay out of social events. I don’t feel comfortable around people, I feel even less comfortable around people that have been drinking. For myself I cannot see myself drinking or doing any kind of drugs at all.
I’m happy it helps some people, but I wish it was not needed of course ^^
Same here! I shy away from people (especially men) because I have this thing that I think if I look at them wrong or in the eyes they’ll freak out on me. So I mostly look at the floor, and jam out to the music in my head while in public. Might look weird but I don’t care about that.
More to the point but adding onto this: I find that people who are out of their minds insufferable. Like, they got drunk or whatever and forget how to even fake being a nice person. A little drinky drink is fine … for some people. Also I might have an occasional drink but when I feel out of control of my thoughts and actions, freaks me out. So no drugs for me, but more power to you if that’s your thing. I’ll just be over here…away from you (no offense )
Ah, should’ve read that first. My bad.
no worries ^^
Encouraging people to self-medicate anxiety with alcohol is reckless. I fucked up years of my life thinking I was doing that “reasonably”
Yes I agree, it can potentially become problematic.