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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MiraTell on 2023-09-25 17:18:38.

I (47F) am a medical professional and have been for more than 20 years, so I am completely desensitized to anything body related and am having a hard time judging if I was TA or not.

I was recently at a dinner party with a group of friends, a couple of which are in the medical field, but most aren’t. After the meal, we were no longer at the table, but just drinking some wine and talking in pairs or groups. I was sitting next to my friend who is also a medical professional and the two of us were having a conversation, but there were other people within earshot.

I had recently been made aware of a case that I won’t reveal the details of, in case I traumatize more people, but just for context it involved a man who went in for surgery on his shoulder, and due to the incompetence or negligence of a nurse received severe damage to his penis.

I was recounting this case to my friend - using clinical language and we were mostly focusing on how on earth it could have happened, and gone unnoticed for as long as it did. I didn’t notice that a couple of men apparently listened in to the story. The next day a got a call from the wife of one of these men, telling me I’d traumatized her husband and literally given him nightmares.

So now I need non medical people to way in - AITA for talking about a horror story where it was possible to be overheard, or is it his own fault for listening in to a conversation that didn’t concern him?