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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Divorce doesn’t protect your personal bank account. That money doesn’t suddenly becomes yours.

    Yes, but no. If you are married and only have joint accounts, you can’t do much to prevent the other person from withdrawing from those accounts until you get into see the magistrate. At a minimum, you should have a separate account if you are paid by direct deposit.




  • My friend group fractured and faded because of the divorce, and I was in no shape to function beyond keeping my job. I got the kids back full time after 2 years of absolutely bleak desolation. I focused on the kids and job for the next 10 years. Right now I’m crawling out my isolation a bit, but only a bit. My kids are now grumpy teenagers who can mostly take care of themselves, and I’m left wondering “what now?”.

    I dunno. Some of the kids activities allowed a bit of socialization around the fringe, but I’m gun shy to the point of not being very willing to engage. Dating probably isn’t an option, I’ve seen things that can’t be unseen. I like my work friends a lot, but work friends aren’t the same as personal friends. I’m not sure what happens from this point, but I’ve got options if I have the effort and willingness to pursue them. If.


  • The major finding is that incels are their own worst enemy and need to improve themselves instead of playing a victim

    That’s not sympathy, sadly that’s what I’ve come to expect in this conversation.

    A significant finding in this study was the extent to which incels reported to be NEET (not in education employment or training), lower-educated, or still living with their parents. Roughly 17% of incels (compared to only 9% of non-incels) reported to be NEET. Given the premium that women do indeed place on status, education and economic success when selecting a mate, improving the material-conditions of men’s lives through education, housing and employment, might help them to form romantic relationships, and thus improve their mental wellbeing

    Communities are a spectrum of individuals with different situations. I feel like this comment is putting the cart (result) before the horse (cause) for a significant portion of this particular self identified community. To what extent is the lack of education/employment/training the result of individuals who can’t function (mentally, physically, emotionally) at that level instead of refusing to? To what extent are these individuals excluded from opportunities or help because of their sex?

    Is there a significant different between how society sees lower functioning men vs lower functioning women? I think there is, and I think ignoring it and telling lonely men to boot strap themselves to success is a perilous message for many of the individuals. The large (and largely ignored) numbers of male suicide and homelessness is everything a struggling guy needs to know about how he fits into society.




  • Meh, hate the game, not the player. I’ve spent half a life and my whole career adjacent to MS, my anger about their products and practices has long since turned to cynical acceptance. Yes, they have over stepped the bounds of fairness and good taste many times, but I’ve seen other vendors do so much worse. If you don’t like Microsoft products, advocate for something else. The bottom of the bottle is that Microsoft has a duty to pursue profit for it’s shareholders, and some of that will be ugly. These days there are workable alternatives for everything they sell, which wasn’t always the case.


  • Pretty much this. There is a significant learning curve to kubernetes (or similar, I guess?), but it’s a handy skill to be familiar with. If things basically run but with degraded performance on one raspberry, there is no real need for a vertical performance increase. Adding the second will provide almost double capacity, with some HA added for fun.