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  • IvarK@lemmygrad.mltoaskchapo@hexbear.netDad Lessons
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    8 months ago

    Agreed on all points but why you gotta do video games dirty like that :c If you’re just mindlessly grinding wow or playing cod (or whatever other awful slop) yeah that’s definitely not a hobby, but there are many more ways to engage with and express yourself through the medium.

    In my case, it’s one of the primary ways I hang out with my friends when we can’t meet in person, and I’ve many people who I’ve known since I was a teen through games (and related communities).

    This isn’t even getting into the whole thing of making games, modding them, and otherwise using the medium for actual creative fulfilment.

    Sorry for the Ted talk I didn’t mean to. As an indie dev I just react strongly to the notion that video games are mindless toys no functioning adult should ever take seriously.





  • I think it’s worth trying an “if if not for you, do it for me” angle. Her getting burned out doesn’t just hurt herself, it also hurts you (and others close to her). Just like the two of you probably have boundaries in your relationship related to giving each other space and so on, she needs to set boundaries in her relationship with her work.

    From your description it sounds like she might be neurodivergent which I understand can make it trickier to “just stop doing bad thing lmao”. Once you’re in that place mentally it can also be hard to really see the damage you are doing to yourself. It might be easier for her to see the value in being a little “selfish” (as in not vending over backwards for her employer) if it is framed as a way to make someone she cares about (you) happier.

    Of course I don’t know the specifics of your relationship or her as a person, this is just my take. Much love, comrade!