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  • Kaity@leminal.spaceto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonegarfruleld says it like it is
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    12 天前

    Me too, I had a non-gendered nickname based on my dead name, and was going to just have my middle chosen name be a lovely name that fit that nickname. But then I decided I hated the nickname and got sour on the idea of “making it easy” for my parents to dead name me in their heart, while using a chosen name.

    Ended up not having a middle name, which is cool because I get to “legally attest” to not having a middle name sometimes which I thought was interesting.






  • Kaity@leminal.spaceto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonegarfruleld says it like it is
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    12 天前

    why does every trans meme assume we change our name to just the other gendered version of our dead names lol. It’s a trope at this point, but speaking as a trans woman that would be dysphoric af.

    I guess, to be fair, I actually considered making my middle name similar to my dead name as a way out for my parents from the “it’s just hard for us” but I realized I hated that idea and screw them if they think respecting me is too hard for them.

    Edit: btw 2 years post come out and my dad finally used my chosen name for the first time. They can change, though my dad keeps misgendering, which shows me his heart isn’t in the right place. He’s thinking “appease” me as in his heart I’m still a guy, even though he definitely glanced at my chest… guh




  • trashgf is right I’m doing subq, shorter needle, injects into fat. Result is the same, it absorbs a bit different I guess but I feel much less sore.

    Edit: You can also do subq on your thigh, but on the other side(ish). My partner does that, but I still avoid the legs. Subq also avoids larger bloodvessels. I had quit injecting for a while doing IM because of a…

    CW: injection mishap spoiler

    I did my injection as normal, but after doing my legs for a while in roughly the same place my skin was getting harder to pierce. I tried to inject, couldn’t get the needle through, pulled out and put it through roughly a centimeter away. Still felt hard and it hurt, I pushed it through (here I know now I had hit a vessel, they are surprisingly tough) and did my injection.

    When I pulled out my leg started gushing blood and I luckily had gauze and stuff nearby to help clean and contain it.

    After that I switched to patches for a while. Those are worse and have their own annoyances. When moving in with my partner who knew how to do subq I went back and she does it for me (I know I am lucky.) There’s almost no pain at all for subq, a good injection I barely feel and when done perfectly I don’t even notice.

    When doing subq though there is a greater chance to lose some of the oil, so z-tracking is more important. when you do IM the muscle soaks up the oil like a dry sponge. fat is slower and of course you are injecting closer to the surface of your skin, but yeah if you do it right subq is way better imo