I don’t know how to break it to you that like 99% of people think using pithy, dismissive responses is bonafide asshole behaviour, and that’s why nobody wants to talk to you guys.
Your “instance culture” is just being a bunch of assholes. This is why everyone defederates you.
It’s telling that a tankie “meme” and a fascist meme are completely identical in their aggressive bigotry and hatred of Ukraine.